I lost my father, David Lawrence Sanders, to suicide

by Amy Schmidt

In memory of David Lawrence Sanders December 13, 1949 – February 11, 1981

It was February 11, 1981. That was the day my whole universe changed. I was 7 years old and I remember walking into the kitchen, seeing my mom holding the phone in her hand. Tears were streaming down her pale face, with what I now recognize as a look of shock and grief. I tried asking read more

Hardest part of Bipolar Disorder is suffering in silence

by Jon Farrow

Jon Farrow and his biggest fan and support network, his family

You suffer in silence out of constant fear of being persecuted. You bury your pain into the deepest obscure corners of your heart for fear of being labeled as crazy or insane. You try to fake it, to be strong, to be normal, all the while carrying this misunderstood weight on your chest.

Living read more

How I survive my son’s Substance Use Disorder

by Brooke D.

As the mother of an addict who is has been in and out of recovery for the past three years who has also struggled with depression for most of his life, I have had to learn to focus on my life.

In Al anon I learned that I can be “happy whether the alcoholic read more

This is what middle school is really like

by a middle schooler

This totally fake middle school picture of happy children is brought to you by your imagination

Note from Anne Moss: When I spoke at the Shady Grove YMCA, there were mostly parents, but a few teens there and one of them talked to me after about the culture at her middle school. Quite different than most of us think although having been in schools and read more

The aftershocks of my son’s attempted suicide

by Susan

I never realized how much trauma I would feel after my son’s suicide attempt.

Thankfully, his attempt failed, but I still feel aftershocks more than a year later. I guess I thought that I/our family would move in a mostly linear line from a terribly painful chapter in our lives to a read more

In memory of Thomas McCue

by Vasiliki Canotas

Dear Anne Moss,

I  read your Woulda Shoulda Coulda article a couple of years ago because I remember Charles. My son Thomas McCue attended Family School and told us about Charles’ death.

I was so sad for him and for you.

But I am even sadder today for his and your loss read more

Mirror Mirror

by Paul Buskey

One of the first songs I could relate to is Pink’s Don’t let me get me. Listen to the lyrics closely.

It’s extremely difficult for me at times to be in my own body and mind.

Unfriendly hostile thoughts are repetitive and plague me most of the time. Escaping the inescapable for read more

I’m Going to Teach my Adolescent to Drink Responsibly, ‘Like They Do in Europe’

And Other Well-Intentioned Parenting Myths about Adolescent Alcohol Use
Danielle Dick, PhD
Danielle Dick, PhD

by Danielle Dick PhD, Professor in Developmental Psychology and Human & Molecular Genetics at Virginia Commonwealth University

As a researcher who studies adolescent alcohol use and problems, I frequently talk to parent groups, and I always, inevitably get asked a question along the read more

How is grief like nesting dolls?

by Susan Casey, MSW, MFA

Rocky

Four years ago, on a day made for lovers, a day when chocolate hearts nestled in red heart-shaped boxes are given out in abundance, my younger brother’s heart stopped beating. His wife and three-and-a-half-year-old daughter stood outside of ICU, hands pressed against the read more

Charles always knew how to make me laugh when I was low

Daniel

By Danielle Warren with her permission to repost this message. Moms who’ve lost a child don’t get to have new memories of that child. The existing ones are all we have but we don’t know all of them and always open to hearing a story about our child who died. read more