Why do people cut?

People cut to:

  • Help them feel something when they are numb inside
  • Be able to physically see the pain they feel inside
  • To punish themselves
  • Push their pain away
  • Feel a sense of control, joy, or excitement
  • Communicate their emotional pain to others
  • Distract themselves from emotionally painful issues

To those who can’t fathom it, cutting is a mysterious practice. Why would anyone do that to themselves?

People cut to cope with any number of situations–grief, rape, thoughts of suicide, an eating disorder, depression, sexual abuse, relationship disruption, and more. Cutting is a way to turn intangible pain into tangible … Read more...

We need to get our kids back to school

Before you draw out your swords and muskets, hear me out. Starting in June, a record number of young people started posting comments on articles and reaching out to me. I used to reply to about 5-9 messages per week from youth struggling with thoughts of suicide. Since June of this year, it’s about five per day.

What are they looking up? They are searching for specific ways to die, how to write a suicide note, and how to tell someone they are thinking of suicide. So they are coming here to this website, on a video I have on … Read more...

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NAMI walks. Register your team!

Support the Emotionally Naked Team or Join the Emotionally Naked Team (link below). You can walk wherever you are with family and friends and if you are in Richmond, you can join us in a location I have not yet decided.

Join the team or donate to my NAMI team.

NAMI Virginia Board members:

Lynda J. Hyatt, Ph.D.
President

Sandy Mottesheard
2nd Vice President

Randy Sherrod
Treasurer

Kim Curtis
At-Large Member

Steven Dixon
At-Large Member

Directors

Julia Torres Barden
Sonnya Brown
Damien Cabezas
Donald Edwards
Kristy Edwards
Tanya Francis
Cristy Gallagher
Leslie Harrop
Rob … Read more...

Pandemic is increasing suicidal thoughts in young people

A quarter of young adults ages 18-24 have seriously contemplated suicide during the pandemic according to new statistics from the CDC. The physical distancing and isolation, have seriously affected our mental health. And that stat is not the only sobering statistic.

We need to get back to as normal a life as possible. And science has proven that mask-wearing diminishes the viral load. That means that if you get it, you get less of the virus resulting in a weaker disease that is less life-threatening. That saves lives and allows us to to connect more. They are hot and uncomfortable. … Read more...

Is the pain of holding it in greater than the fear of telling?

You get to a place where you don’t give a rat’s @$$ what anyone thinks anymore. Not that you have no fear at all. You do. Just enough to make telling your story that much more authentic.

There is never a time where there is no fear at all. There is never a time when it doesn’t feel uncomfortable. But at some point, you have to do it for yourself and for others. Because when you tell your story, others are inspired to tell theirs. The relief is heavenly.

You might wonder why you worried for so long. Feared the … Read more...

Suicide, Trauma, Foster Care, Adoption

by Carla A. Carlisle

Carla A. Carlisle

On March 22, 2010, my life was forever changed when I became a first-time foster parent to a beautiful premature 10-day-old, two-month baby boy.  I knew that becoming a foster parent would mean major lifestyle changes, I didn’t know that my connection to this child would change the essence of my being.  I was told that 99% of children taken at birth don’t go back to their birth parents, but this one fell in the 1%.  At six-months-old, this dear sweet baby boy was returned to his birth mother. In the six months, I had interacted … Read more...

My emotional pain

by Ben Eden

As I share my story, pay attention to how you think and feel.  These realizations will be important in your path to overcoming your own emotional pain. 

As you read my story, don’t compare and think, “That was no big deal” or “Oh my! That is so much worse than mine!” Rather, see how we can relate.  Our experiences may not be the same, but we may relate in how we have felt during our experiences.  We are all dealing with something and maybe we can learn from one another.

My story comes from when I was … Read more...

Why?

by Tammy Ozolins

Tammy Ozolins

Why me? I often would ask
Why did I have to deal with all this pain in the past
Surgery after surgery, sickness after sickness
it all happened so fast

But now I must deal with a mental disorder that is here to stay
You see Bipolar Disorder just doesn’t go away
Another illness I must deal with
More meds I must take every day

Why me? Have I not gone thru enough?
Now, I must deal with this mental stuff
Going through days of highs and lows can take its toll
But I always … Read more...

Strength means having the courage to ask for help

by Tammy Ozolins

I have four brothers and no sisters. So, as you can imagine I had to be very tough at a young age. This is what I truly pride myself on, my toughness. Well, even though this is a great quality to have, it did have some negative to it. See, everyone expected me to be this tough woman all the time. Well, deep down inside that was not the case all the time.

When I was I high school I was just starting to deal with Bipolar Disorder

I was not medically diagnosed until my mid-twenties. So, … Read more...

My family’s frustration with my mental illness

by Nida Fatima, India

I have fought every day for 10 years. I also had physical trauma previously. So I fight mentally and physically, too.

Since I was born I was treated as if I was ignorant and not mentally ill. I felt the boycott from my community and suffered isolation from my family.

My bipolar disease was diagnosed when I was in a teenager. At that time my father had to handle me and tried to keep negative people from me. Because my father was told by a psychiatrist. I don’t know how I understand things without knowing or … Read more...