In Honor of Resilience Week 2020

So many parents tell me, “I asked my child that but he wouldn’t answer.” Or, “My teen just won’t talk to me.”

Why not? You might think it’s typical teen behavior. But there are ways to have a more talkative child and one who knows how to solve problems.

You can teach your kids coping strategies by changing your relationship, by making subtle changes, asking more questions, and expressing confidence in their ability to find solutions. From an elementary-age child to a young adult, it’s never to early to use these strategies.

In just nineteen pages, you can find out … Read more...

How does a collective threat bring us closer together?

Collective threat examples are WWII, terrorist attacks, mass shootings, and the most recent, COVID-19.

When lives and livelihoods are threatened, human populations pull together. In one sense COVID-19 levels the playing field because everyone is experiencing some level of inconvenience, anxiety, and no one knows how it will all turn out. That’s not to say everyone experiences this crisis through the same lens however since some thrive and still others stand in line for food. But we all share a sense of the unknown.

A collective threat means that we have to pull together to figure out how to resolve … Read more...

Join me and Katherine Wintsch on Zoom

Katherine has been studying mothers and their self-doubt for over a decade and she has a tried and true technique that often helps moms chart a course of success and self-confidence even when you have no idea what the future holds. 

These days, the list of things that are new to us seems like it could literally be endless. And Katherine has some thoughts on how you achieve mental relief, instead of finding yourself buried under a pile of your own insecurities.  

Katherine Wintsch dedicates her life to making the lives of mothers easier. In her … Read more...

Mental Health Awareness Month

The subject of mental health is more important than ever. Because it affects more people than ever while we battle COVID19. People are isolated, losing their jobs, their homes, and standing in line for food. All of this weighs on the mental health of those struggling and those watching others struggle.

While 1 in 5 people will experience a mental illness during their lifetime, everyone faces challenges in life that can impact their mental health.

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Four benefits of staying in the present

We predict, project, and fret and look into our crystal ball to try to see what’s ahead. There are even graphs and charts that show us predictions that scare us.

We don’t need to make up reasons to be anxious.

I remember struggling with staying in the present when Charles was using. My mind skipped forward like a smooth rock on a pond creating outlandishly dramatic future scenarios that made me worry. These did nothing to prepare me or bring me peace.

The truth is, things often don’t turn out as we imagine. It almost always takes an unexpected turn. … Read more...

Video: COVID19 Coping Strategy

I am not dismissing the seriousness of this pandemic. But I am encouraging you to record your experience so you can one day share it with others. What do your kids think? Your mother? Some of your friends?

So go ahead and let it all out. You don’t have to share it with anyone right now. But get it out of your head. Record your experience in audio or video or by writing it.

How you feel and what your experiences are will one day be part of the fabric of your life that you can look back on and … Read more...

Why do we consider vulnerability a weakness?

For some reason, these two words are treated as synonyms.

How hard is it to confess your deepest feelings? When you do, how does it make you feel? And when you do tell your story, is it easy?

We embrace people when they tell their emotionally naked story. But when we think about sharing, we avoid and tell ourselves it’s weak.

That’s fear. Because people are afraid to feel and they spend thousands on substances to suspend them or push them away. Yet when they do share, a burden is lifted.

Sharing a heartfelt story is courageous. However, there is … Read more...

No one can feel it and no one can heal it

by Nida Fatima

I am Nida Fatima, a married, 29-year-old woman living in India.

I believed I cannot do everything right because God had blessed me with a painful illness called bipolar disorder.

As a child, I was physically abused and couldn’t tell my family about it because it was too shameful and I struggled to explain because I was just 5 years old.

My family thought that my behavior was showing symptoms of bipolar. So they didn’t bond with me. This made me so depressed, I completely lost my focus. I was confused about what this illness was exactly. … Read more...

Isolation forces you to feel

When there are fewer distractions, you have to face your issues. There’s nothing to hide behind or duck under. No way to minimize or justify it. There you are lying bare naked next to your pain.

As it gets bigger it threatens to consume you.

You might want to mask it with a flask. Or consume some Ben & Jerry’s double fudge chocolate ice cream. But does that solve anything?

Maybe it’s time to face it. To stop circling the wagons. Besides, all that circling takes so much more effort. And that much longer. Diving in and working through it, … Read more...

Cutting to cope

by Anjelica Diaz

I was only 13 and when I went through rough times. I had to move away from my home and my dad, and start over at a new school. It did have its perks though. I got to be with my baby brother and sister.

A few weeks in, I was placed in CPS (Child Protective Services) and went to a mental hospital for the first time. I still remember the day–March 17, 2015. It was really scary and I think that’s where all my behaviors started.

I thought about suicide but I’d never attempted it. It … Read more...