Christian Suicide Prevention Summit

Cyber Monday!

Monday, November 30, 2020

This starts at 9am PST/12pm EST

I speak at 1:20 pm on the subject of, “How can I help a loved one who doesn’t want help?” All talks are thirty minutes each.

No cost

Speakers: Tom Ziglar, Tracey Mitchell, Brian Bogert, Heather Peidrahita, Anne Moss Rogers (me).

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Dining Room Table

by Jon Farrow

I’m sitting across from my Dad at his dining room table. It’s a cheap knock off table. The kind made to look like wood. My Dad sipping on his fifth or sixth beer. At this point, I’ve lost count. I had just explained to him all the things I’ve done to survive to reach this moment. I sit there staring into his glassy bloodshot eyes. A small look of disgust resting on his face. He says to me, “Why did you do all of that?” The only reply I had to give was, “I didn’t have a … Read more...

Won Finalist in the 2020 Best Book Awards

Diary of a Broken Mind is an Award-Winning Finalist in the Health: Addiction & Recovery category of the 2020 Best Book Awards sponsored by American Book Fest.

The book listing is live on AmericanBookFest.com and will remain active for an additional ten months.

Thank all of you for buying the book, for leaving reviews at Good Reads, Barnes& Nobles, and Amazon. They mean a lot. If you know someone who has lost a child to addiction or suicide, someone who has a child who is currently suffering from those, or a young adult who would like to see the perspective … Read more...

Is suicide a choice?

At first, I thought it was a choice. Those who do see it as a choice, take it personally when someone suicides. And when you look at it from that simplistic point of view, that can seem like a betrayal of our love.

Part of my grief meant educating myself about suicide. To take it apart piece by piece, throw away the myths, and really understand it. In that journey, I also needed to understand depression and addiction and how all of it fit together. As I read my son’s lyrics, I saw page after page about how much he … Read more...

I thought ‘I don’t want to do this’

I thought this when my son started misusing substances and when I found out he was addicted to heroin. I thought this before I went to bed after news of my son’s suicide. And there were other times in between where I just didn’t want to be the one who had to make a difficult decision and wished a fairy Godmother would sprinkle pixie dust and make it all better.

But the night he died, I so wanted to get out of having to grieve the loss of my child. Wasn’t there a detour I could take? And escape … Read more...

Why do people cut?

People cut to:

  • Help them feel something when they are numb inside
  • Be able to physically see the pain they feel inside
  • To punish themselves
  • Push their pain away
  • Feel a sense of control, joy, or excitement
  • Communicate their emotional pain to others
  • Distract themselves from emotionally painful issues

To those who can’t fathom it, cutting is a mysterious practice. Why would anyone do that to themselves?

People cut to cope with any number of situations–grief, rape, thoughts of suicide, an eating disorder, depression, sexual abuse, relationship disruption, and more. Cutting is a way to turn intangible pain into tangible … Read more...

Grief is making me angry and irritated

Charles is in the middle wearing a white shirt.

I am not accustomed to angry, irritable grief. It’s visited a few times but lately, that’s the emotion that has taken up residence. I’m not a pure joy to be around. Imagine that. Covid-19 has been, if not solely responsible, at least partly so. Because I am sick of it. I know everyone else is, too. But right now I don’t care how anyone else feels about it. I just want my two minutes to complain.

It feels as if I am a bumper car running into obstacles in a limited … Read more...

I lost my brother Matt to suicide ten years ago

by Shannon Geary Weisleder

Trigger warning: Strong emotional content and suicide method mentioned.

Ten years seems like a long time – a decade – but at the same time just yesterday, too. Ten years ago January 12, I lost my big brother to suicide. He was 41. I was 38. I had three young boys and he had five children – four boys and a girl.

It was a Sunday morning and I was eating breakfast and reading the paper

My mom called and was worried she couldn’t reach Matt. He had just moved into a new home the day … Read more...

EP39: RESCUE RUN (P3): Erin Ivie – Executive Director of SpeakUp ReachOut

I was in Colorado in late August as the keynote speaker for SpeakUp Reach Out for their annual walk and butterfly launch. It was an incredible event and a beautiful day and I met Alex Minting there who was very dedicated to the cause of suicide prevention.

He has just started a podcast called the Builder’s Journey. In this episode, the executive director, Erin Ivie talks about how she started as executive director and what the organization is doing locally. The ladder metaphor is incredible. And they do talk about my book and I appreciate Alex mentioning that and … Read more...

Transitions that challenge student mental health

Given that it’s close to the holidays, I just wanted parents to know that transitions are moments of intense stress for students and can be danger zones for suicide risk. And that mini-transition from school to home for the holidays can be a period of distress.

You might not be aware that your child is vulnerable. I didn’t. Most don’t until it happens. In writing my second book, Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Suicide Prevention and Recognizing Students at Risk, we interviewed Dr. Victor Schwartz, Former CMO of The Jed Foundation, who provided more detail on transition periods.… Read more...