How to let go of bitterness in grief

Who wants to be bitter their whole life? How does it improve the quality of your life? And do others want to be around you when you are bitter?

The short answer is that it doesn’t improve the quality of your life so let’s get rid of it.

We are allowed some bitterness in grief. Just read more

Martin Luther King and culture shifts

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. speaking. (Photo by Julian Wasser//Time Life Pictures/Getty Images)

When I get discouraged about how long it has taken me to make progress as it relates to youth mental health, a cause I’ve been pushing for the last eight years, I think about how hard it was for others.

As much progress as Martin Luther King made for civil rights, we’re still not there read more

Tell me a story about your loved one

Enough about my story. For now, anyway. I want to know yours.

Tell me a story about your loved one.

If you lost a child, I want to know more about that child. Tell me something about him. Or her.

If someone you love is using, tell me a story about the person deep down inside. I want to know more read more

He promised not to attempt suicide again

This is an impossible and un-keepable promise.

I remember talking to a friend of Charles’ who had attempted suicide and saying something like this. When we say, “Don’t do that again,” we think it lets the other person know how much we care.

We want them to guarantee they read more

So I’m working on a book

It’s nonfiction, memoir style I guess. I’ve never done this. I’ve written ebooks for marketing–about 30 pages or so. At first it was so daunting but then, fortunately, an acquaintance of mine connected me with a writer named Susan, in Maine with whom I meet by phone.

She read more

That’s what I get for putting ‘naked’ in the site name

Totally swiped and photoshopped naked Anne Moss

Let’s face it, the keywords I do see that lead to this website are not usually “happy.” The site is about addiction, depression, grief and my son, Charles’ suicide.

But guess what? We deserve a break. Yes we do. Because every once in a while there are some funny search phrases. read more

The secret to getting unstuck in grief

Nobody’s wants to feel the pain of grief. Nobody wants to feel pain, period.

The things that get us stuck are refusing to talk about it, feeling guilty for crying, not finding or accepting support.

‘Feeling it’ serves a purpose. As much as it sucks, that purpose is emotional healing. read more

So much hurt in his lyrics

I’ve been writing a book and Charles will be my co-author since I will be publishing some of his lyrics–ones published and some not published. The point will be to show you inside the mind of someone who suffered from addiction, read more

Harm reduction parenting

Harm reduction focuses on reducing negative consequences associated with drug misuse.

It does not attempt to minimize or ignore harm and dangers associated with drug misuse but instead accepts that drug use and addiction are conditions that are part of our culture. In short, harm reduction could read more

Voices for Change Podcast

Start it at 4:45 or so

Technical glitches at the start so once you hit play, you drag the little circle forward to about 4:45 or so.

I actually “met” Becca Lombardo on Twitter. She, like me, has been a mental health advocate for a long time. Rebecca suffers from bipolar disorder and has written two books on the read more