My son died in a hell hole

I can only imagine where he was staying

Charles was found dead in an apartment on Monument Avenue.

Not the gorgeous part lined with million dollar row houses and manicured little yards on cobblestone streets. I’m talking about the seedier part–the part I didn’t even know existed until we got news he died.  Obviously, a read more

4 things to consider if your child is using drugs

 1. Get support

Don’t try to go this alone. Whether your child is addicted or not, if you suspect serious misuse, join a support group or find a therapist. Watching your child destroy him or herself and finding out you can’t wave a magic wand or pray your child’s way out of it can be agonizing and read more

We’re fixers not listeners

We need to be listeners. But if we can’t fix it, we tend to turn in the other direction.

Those of you who’ve suffered watching a loved one with addiction or a mental illness or both know what I mean. We wanted the formula. And in our first support group, we sat there waiting for the read more

My ‘Eyes on Richmond’ Presentation

I did appreciate the opportunity to present on this topic, “Addiction and Mental Illness: Injustices to our youth” to share why Virginia ranks 46th for treating youth mental health.

That means 7 out of 10 most at risk for dropping out of school, struggling with relationships, ending up read more

Community hearts— #griefheart number 267

So many hearts have been shared and sent to me for this #griefheart project.

These are just a few of the ones I could find in my inbox. They are texted to me, sent to me by email, through facebook private message and posted to my wall. Messaged through linkedin, twitter and even sent as presents. read more

Grief and Life Events

Family weddings are wonderful. But all life events for those of us who’ve lost a child are bittersweet. It was so good to see all my family and had a great weekend in Charleston, SC with my mom, my first cousins with whom I grew up in Fayetteville, NC.

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I almost took my own life-the aftermath

by Tammie Ozolins

Tammy is in the center

It remember it so clearly. It was during my college years and I had been out drinking with my friends, a weekend routine back then. I ended up feeling very depressed. I had been on an antidepressant but I still drank and my boyfriend and I got into a fight that night.

I cannot remember read more

Comparison does not have to be the thief of joy

Comparing your life with that of another can put you in a constant state of unhappiness. Why don’t I have __________ like such and such? With the advent of social media, this feeling is often compounded.

Those of us whose children suffered from addiction have, at some point, compared our read more

When your parents don’t understand addiction

by Melissa 

Coffee cup of inspiration

I have a smart, beautiful daughter. She was a lovely little girl and a successful student throughout high school and college.

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I still struggle

Right after Charles’ suicide, the only way I got through those first few weeks after my family left was to remind myself that it will never hurt as much as it did when we got that unbearable news.

A few months later I thought “getting better” or moving forward would mean I wouldn’t read more