Charles’ suicide wasn’t personal

Charles’ suicide felt intensely personal.

At first, I was sure it was because I sucked as a mom. Or that he was choosing to leave us.

I didn’t love him enough.

He didn’t love me enough.

I missed the signs.

I didn’t say the right thing.

I did nothing right.

His suicide was a crushing read more

Like heart disease or diabetes, addiction is a disease

by Bill Maher

Addiction is a disease that can fracture a family

It’s mind-bogging to me that families often try to treat the medical disease of addiction at home. Home made works for pies but it’s not an ideal approach when it comes to treating a complex disease process.

If your teenager broke his arm, would you set the bone at the kitchen read more

Sadness is not the enemy

fear of sadness

Sadness is one of those emotions people will take a detour of a hundred miles to avoid.

No one wants to hear about it. They don’t want to show it or experience it. They fear it and don’t even want to be near someone who suffers from it. Sometimes that means avoiding me since I am read more

Ben’s suicidal thoughts poem

by Ben

Ben is a 17-year-old who suffers from depression and suicidal ideation and contributed this to emotionally naked to express how he feels. 

I want to die,

I want to scream and cry,

these wings of wax allow me to fly,

but they melt in the sun’s glaring glow,

and I fall and drown in the read more

Emotional scars

light a candle for my child

Over time, the blunt force trauma of a Charles’ suicide has softened. The edges are not as sharp, the searing pain has become a persistent ache. He is still the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about at night. There are repeat episodes of intense pain read more

Last call for memorial t-shirts, and comments about loved ones

We have 36 names so far. We can accommodate a few more. See what the shirts look like. Short sleeve, sweatshirt, unisex short sleeve, women’s slim fit. XS-3XL. Light blue, gray, white.

 I want to add my loved one

Below are the comments by those who have submitted names for the memorial t-shirt.

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Keynote for Wellstone in Cullman, Alabama

keynote speaker mental health

I’d like to say I was the star of the event. Or maybe even the CEO, Jeremy or Chris, the COO. But no, the bread pudding was the real star. A lovely venue to boot.

I got to meet the family whose father was attacked by a man who was lost in psychosis, entered the family home and killed Stephen read more

A sign of love —#griefheart number 288

A sign of love

I don’t think there could be a more perfect #griefheart than this. A message to let someone else know they matter is literally the heart of what Charles was all about. Enough said.

What is the #griefheart project?

I explain my #griefheart project here. Contact read more

I don’t know always know what happens after

struggle

People who read this page (trigger warning), often ask about Debbie.

Debbie is from the UK and she’s become something of a celebrity since she comes back to share on that page when she is struggling which I’m so thankful for. Many ask how she is doing. As of this writing, Debbie read more