Divorce your toxic friends

by Danny Gautama

As a man who continues to write for mental health organizations, a big part of my consistency and my drive to help others is having the greatest group of people who encourage and inspire me. I am always excited and passionate to send my articles to help others.

My group is always optimistic, they are the best at what they do, they don’t project any negativity on me, and they are supporting, kind and have my best interest at heart. It’s a no brainer as to why I surround myself with these people.

I am also blessed … Read more...

15-year-old with anxiety and low self esteem

by Hali

Note from Anne Moss: You all know I have posts out there for the express purpose of showing up on Google. That means I write them so when people go to search and type in certain phrases, posts from here show up near the top on page one and thanks to your sharing, they do. This one from Hali on this post who gave me permission to post this.

You’re a very kind person, Anne. It’s very sweet of you to take the time to try and keep people from making the mistake and ending their lives. But … Read more...

My son, Jake, died from depression

by Susan Shearouse 

Journal Entry. May 12. Sunday. Mother’s Day

Susan and her son, Jacob Hasson Stull who died by suicide.
February 26, 1982 – September 14, 2018

Sitting on the porch, comforted by the sweet soft rain. This bench is sheltered just so. I can look out across the front yard at my gardens there and stay dry here.

Mother’s Day. I am the mother of three children. One is not with me. Other people say “he is here.” No. Here is rumbling through the neighborhood in an old truck that needs a new muffler. Here is bounding up … Read more...

Keep it positive! A phrase I hate

All my career I heard that phrase. In advertising, they practically force fed it.

When did we become so fake that anything other than bliss was off limits? There are times when a warped or dark point of view is funny.

One time, we did an ad for Ethyl (now under another name.) It was for a fireproof suit. We featured a photo of a guy walking through fire with the suit on and the headline was something like, “Our guys walk through hell to test our suits.” The client loved it. Except for one thing. Could we make it … Read more...

Book is back from the editor

I met with my publisher today, Beach Glass Books, and got the thumb drive with the suggested edits. I liked a lot of her ideas so far. Both the publisher and editor feel the book will do well. How well? Who knows. I can’t even predict that.

At this point I have a really big list and two weeks to get it done. Yikes.

Deep breath. I can do this.

I need to go through it and make some decisions and then I have to get someone to do a final proofing. So it’s a proofing after the editing. Meanwhile, … Read more...

My anxiety and panic disorder

by Chris Skinner

I have lived with anxiety disorder and panic disorder at various times in my life.  When I get scared, this stimulates my fight or flight response giving my body a temporary adrenaline rush to either defend myself or run away.  

Anxiety can cause tension, feelings of extreme worry, and physical sensations such an increase in blood pressure. Anxiety disorders are characterized by recurring intrusive thoughts/concerns. Some people avoid situations, which cause physical changes like sweating, trembling, feeling dizzy, or an increased heart rate.

Panic disorder feels like I’m having a heart attack

It comes with vertigo, and a … Read more...

Vulnerability

It allows us to tell our stories–stories from the soul. Vulnerability feels risky. It exposes us and we think it will make us look weak.

What if we are rejected? How will we endure ridicule? What will the family think? Our friends, neighbors, colleagues?

Being emotionally naked is not without risk or fear. It’s terrifying. And that’s what you feel the moment you open up and tell your deepest truth.

At the same time, it’s exhilarating. And ultimately rewarding.

It allows you to let go of that which has kept you prisoner and pinned to your isolation. That ball you … Read more...

Mother’s Day is here. Again

by Karla Helbert, LPC

mother's memories on mother's day
Mother to a daughter. And a baby son lost to a brain tumor.

I wish people knew that this day, now over-commercialized, over-sentimentalized, overblown and over-filled with spending, obligation, and long waits at any brunch-worthy restaurant, was first created by and for bereaved mothers who shared it with all other mothers.

They started it not to elevate to superiority the mother and her role in family and society, or even to simply honor motherhood.

Did you know that the women who started Mother’s Day were actively working to help lower infant mortality rates? That they protested … Read more...

An Emotionally Naked Love Story

I never thought of this website as a matchmaking site. But apparently it is.

Once upon a time, I met a lady named Tamara who became my friend when I reached out to her after her son, Logan, died in a truck crash. Logan suffered from mental illness including a binge eating disorder and lived in the neighborhood Charles grew up in.

So she understood my frustration with the mental health system. And the expense. Even more coincidental, Logan went to the same boarding school in Utah as Charles.

We were instant friends

Tamara wrote this article about her Read more...

Fighting suicidal ideation

by Larry

Note from Anne Moss: Larry emailed me last year and he has struggled with thoughts of suicide since donating an organ. He is from in the highest risk group for suicide in both Canada and US, middle aged white males. This latest email is published here with his permission and to show you how hard people fight their ideation.

“Shortly after my last email below I did a 180 and very nearly ended my life. I was in such deep despair I had decided it was best to end my wife’s pain at watching my steady decline and … Read more...