Podcast: Suicide Postvention-What Schools Can do

This podcast focuses on Postvention which is after a suicide loss.

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Postvention Guides & Article:

Free PDF- After a Suicide: A Toolkit for Schools- Second Edition– From NASP, NASSP, ASCA

Free PDF- Postvention Guide for Colleges – From JED Foundation & Higher Education Mental Health Alliance (HEMHA) Project

After a suicide at a school or college. What do you do?

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Creating a crisis safety plan. Hacks for the rest of us.

This is not to take the place of a suicide assessment, or professionally-developed safety plan

This post is about the many creative ways to apply the concept of suicide safety planning in order to support a loved one (or yourself) when they are emotionally vulnerable, in crisis, or at risk of making a decision that can result in a threat to life such as suicide or addiction relapse. We can call it the emotional crisis safety plan.

It’s a way to remind an individual of their connection to life, healthy coping strategies they have identified as helpful, as well … Read more...

Podcast: The Leftover Pieces; Suicide Loss Conversations

Hosted by: Melissa Bottorff-Arey

Includes how to get unstuck and survival tools for suicide loss. Go to the podcast website.

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KU 6th Annual Clinical Updates Colloquium

Kim O’Brien talks about safety planning with teens

Kim O’Brien, PhD, LICSW, and I spoke at this event for social workers. It was such an honor for me to co-present with Kim and she was amazing. We are in the first three hours. It’s long. But worthwhile if you work with adolescents which were our focus.

Watch at the YouTube link below:

https://youtu.be/cHtKtXVoxKY

Kim was my co-author for the book, Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognize Students at Risk. My first book, a memoir is Diary of a Broken Mind which includes my son’s lyrics … Read more...

Pain medication leads to an endless cycle of family pain

by Cathy Jo Harper

Jason Brooks Harper

When Jason was 16 years old, he had a car wreck. Six weeks of physical therapy was followed with a new wonder drug for pain, Vicodin…..and a lifetime addiction to opioids.

Through relapses, college, rehab, counseling, the Marines, my life was filled with anxiety over how to help, anger at the situation, and fear; I was losing my son, my firstborn. How would I survive? How would his siblings survive without their big brother, their confidante, and at times their enemy?

Addiction and/or mental illness soon becomes a game the whole family gets … Read more...

How to use DBT skills to manage the pain of grief

Coping Toolbox

There are some self-help strategies in DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) that I used to manage my grief. Now I want to be clear that while I used these skills, I didn’t know at the time that they were actual DBT skills but looking back, I can now identify how I used them in my grief process. I’m going to tell you what those are, and how I used them to help myself through the devastating loss of my son, Charles, to suicide. 

DBT was developed by Dr. Marsha M. Linehan, an American psychologist. This methodology can apply to … Read more...

Grieving Parents Sharing Hope Podcast with Anne Moss Rogers

Struggling in the Darkness of our Loss with host Laura Diehl and Anne Moss Rogers. This episode has a lot of practical advice for those who are struggling deeply in the darkness of grief after child loss. Being a mom who lost her son to suicide, Anne Moss made a conscious decision to figure out how to work through the guilt, shame, and horrific darkness to be able to live a life of meaning and purpose again, both to honor her son, Charles, and to help those who find themselves contemplating ending their own life.

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Young Adults, I have been in your shoes

By Tammy Ozolins, Middle School Teacher

It is such a cliché I know; your world feels like it is crashing down, you have no energy. You even feel like your world is getting darker and darker and all you want is to see a little glimmer of hope. Your days are long, and you are tired of it all. The walls are closing in on you and you cannot breathe.

Does this sound familiar at all?

That is exactly how I felt when I was at my lowest point of depression (I manage and cope with Bipolar Disorder-which was not … Read more...

We didn’t know…a poem about surviving the suicide of a sibling

by Tammy New Hallstein

Tammy New Hallstein and her brother, Ryland New Jr.

We didn’t know that you were drowning in emotional distress

We didn’t know that you decided that the way to save yourself was to end your life

We didn’t know that we could cry in our sleep; that we could cry so many tears for so long

We didn’t know that the last time we saw you, heard your voice, or shared a conversation, a phone call, or text with you, that it would be the final time

We didn’t know that it was possible to feel … Read more...