COVID-19 pledge

The safety of our tribe members and employees remains our top priority at Emotionally Naked. Except that we don’t have employees but that’s beside the point because I want this pledge to sound exactly like all communications you have received of late in your inbox from t-shirt to light bulb companies.

Hundreds of companies have sent you links to the CDC COVID-19 Pandemic page because you are so anxious you cannot possibly find those resources by yourself. (CDC= Center for Disease Control in the US)

As concern for the Coronavirus grows, we will continue to monitor and evaluate the situation … Read more...

It’s hard to build resilience with so many referees

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When I say we have too many referees I don’t just mean the ones in black and white striped shirts but referee parents, educators, and more.

I remember when play review was integrated into college basketball. I thought it would be amazing to have the ability to review every play in addition to the three referees. Certainly, it would make it more fair, right?

That first year we had it, the game got longer and we were robbed of the momentum and excitement in return. We learned that too much “refereeing” was not a good thing after all.

We spend … Read more...

Life hurts. So how are you going to cope when it gets tough?

There is both joy and sadness in life and both can happen in extremes. The devastating days make me think the “bad days” are not so bad. The good days have me dancing on a cloud.

How will you cope with the events that challenge you to the core, crush your heart like glass?

In Hollywood, they cope by going out to the bar. Or by eating pints of ice cream. How good are these long term?

You don’t want to hurt, to suffer. It’s not fun. Is it avoidable? Some think so. But when they try to numb it, … Read more...

Mushy and hallmarky

This is a mushy time of year.

For those of us who’ve lost someone before their time–a sibling, child, parent, spouse–tears hover closer to the surface. So we give back more to balance the pain and ease that persistent ache. It’s how many of us manage the pain of that loss that is sharper during the holidays.

We are less likely to get caught up in shopping frenzies or black Fridays, focusing more on our loved ones, friends and neighbors. Life is not about stuff but more about connecting, remembering, finding hope and joy, grieving and managing hurt so it … Read more...

My oldest boy is 27 today and sharing his IG ad

I’m taking a break to be a bragging mom. My oldest son, Richard, moved out to LA a … Read more...

Is your comfort zone holding you hostage?

Nothing will make you feel more inspired than stepping outside of the usual and doing something you don’t ordinarily do.

It could be something as simple as finally going to that support group, doing something for yourself like salsa dancing, joining a historic preservation foundation or making that move to start your own business.

The point?

You won’t find excitement and adventure in your comfort zone because that area is surrounded with padded walls to protect you from any new ideas that might hatch. You gotta break out of there to find connection, peace, excitement, and joy.

We get in … Read more...

Parenting Regrets and Guilt

When a child struggles, it has to be your fault. It’s probably because you bought regular sweet potatoes and not the organic ones. Or you yelled at them that time when you should not have, or didn’t give them a dog when they needed the unconditional love of a pet.

Maybe your child suffers from depression which comes from your side of the family, used medication you had in the cabinet and became addicted, or used it to attempt suicide. If one of your children was more challenging, maybe you weren’t able to give the siblings as much attention because … Read more...

As she sashayed into the Quality Inn lobby in her sequined gown…

Once upon a time, there was a princess named Anne Moss. Now she wasn’t a real princess just one in her mind. She surmised that the delicate Southern sensibilities with which she was raised, elevated her to this status. Besides that, her daddy always told her she was.

This princess was devastated when the resort at which she had been staying to attend the NSA (National Speakers Association) Conference in Colorado, didn’t have a room the last night for the grand ball.

After calling every day for two months prior, others not recognizing her royal status, placed Marriot award point … Read more...

Open mic nights?

I woke up last night freaked out. How am I going to do live readings of my book? I am not a worry wart but I was possessed with this at 3am. A few tears is fine, but I can’t have a crying meltdown which is what happened multiple times yesterday when I gave it a go.

You would think since I do so many speaking engagements that reading from this book would be easier. For whatever reason, it’s not which surprised me.

A blubber fest is not what I want to put on display. So I’m thinking I go … Read more...

I’m pissed off

I’ve been mad all day. You know the kind of day I’m talking about.

No one answers your calls or replies to your emails. People that said they would follow up or send you something, forget despite reminders. Leads that you thought would come through don’t. And you get all the crummy news at once. Have I had worse days? Most definitely. But the frustration has me so tied up in knots, I can’t write anything but how mad I am.

I’m not handling my bad day well at all.

I did a lot of yelling when my husband came … Read more...