There is both joy and sadness in life and both can happen in extremes. The devastating days make me think the “bad days” are not so bad. The good days have me dancing on a cloud.
How will you cope with the events that challenge you to the core, crush your heart like glass?
In Hollywood, they cope by going out to the bar. Or by eating pints of ice cream. How good are these long term?
You don’t want to hurt, to suffer. It’s not fun. Is it avoidable? Some think so. But when they try to numb it, it simply leaves the person treading water. And then the pain that’s been pushed away snaps back like a rubber band on steroids.
Are you thinking about today as just another day to get through? Are you thinking it will never get better? Are you seeing only the bad things that happen and ignoring the blue sky with those pretty clouds that look like cotton balls?
Adjusting how we see things takes practice. If we let our brains focus only on the awful things that happen, we miss the beautiful things that punctuate our lives and then our brains get in the habit of wearing blinders.
A little slice of peace is not always a big thing. Sometimes it’s just some pretty clouds. And allowing yourself that moment to take it in is the one motivator that can allow you to move forward.
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