Protests over George Floyd’s death

Charles protesting downtown in 2014

Had Charles been alive he would have been at the protests in downtown Richmond over the murder of George Floyd, an African American man killed by four policemen when they wrestled the handcuffed man to the ground and put a knee on his neck. Charles would have been so outraged and my youngest always expressed his fury with action. He was not violent. But he was passionate–all brimstone and emotion.

The picture above is one in which he ran into a friend who was protesting and got involved. This was a response to a grand … Read more...

Audiobook fans, I need your opinion

The audiobook of Diary of a Broken Mind has not happened yet. It is supposed to have but our first round of auditions ended in a nondecision in early February. I need to move forward with this, however.

In talking to two people in the last week, both have said they want to hear me read it. I had not taken this on due to my vocal cord issues. Instead, we were auditioning other voices. I only have one vocal cord and my voice is unlikely to be very consistent from one day to the next. Maybe scratchy some days. … Read more...

Turning Pain into Purpose Presentation

speaker for drugs and addiction

I miss the stage. But what I miss most is seeing all of you during and then after–hearing your stories.

This is a virtual version of my most requested topic. I hope you’ll join us on this webinar. It is free, however, it’s for a nonprofit and donations are appreciated.

DATE/TIME
Date(s) – Fri, 06/19/2020
2:00 pm-3:00 pm EDT

An Emotionally Naked Story of Depression, Addiction, Loss, and Hope

The topic is for parents and hosted by the nonprofit, Johnny’s Ambassadors founded by Laura Stack. See the series here.

Time: 2pm-3pm EST/12pm-1pm MST

Cost: $0 (But Johnny’s Ambassador’s … Read more...

Your pain has a purpose

Photo taken by my brother Gene Nimocks

We do not want to experience pain. No one wants withdrawal, wants to lose someone they love, wants to suffer the aftermath of surgery.

However, that pain is how your body and brain heal. While you are in agony, you are healing. The body is adjusting, letting it in, and then lifting it and develops a rhythm with its own cadence. Every unbearable moment you survive is building your emotional muscle.

And your body and brain are recognizing ways to manage the pain so that next time you are more prepared.

I’ve always … Read more...

Improve your relationship with your loved one

We fall into habits of talking to family members over time that doesn’t include listening. We predict what they’ll say and intervene with our own opinion and advice. While it may be good advice, our loved ones rarely appreciate it.

Think of how powerless someone feels when they’ve been put in a mental institution against their will? And then later told what medications to take and that they are doctor’s orders. Pretty soon they feel they are not in charge of anything. What’s more, loved ones don’t take medication because they truly … Read more...

Happy Memorial Day

Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the USA for honoring and mourning the military personnel who died while serving in the United States Armed Forces.

Here on emotionally naked that includes mourning military personnel who have died by suicide. Because those who have fought for our country often continue to fight those battles long after.

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A special thank you to school counselors

School counselors do more than most people think. Often confused with guidance counselors, school counselors don’t focus on college admissions but on the emotional well being of students at school. They are often our unsung heroes. School counselors, social workers and psychologists often team together to meet students’ needs regarding mental health. Most of the time this group would be referred to as Student Services.

If a student is homeless, a victim of abuse, being bullied, lacking food or clothing, the school counselor is the one who manages the situation or refers that student to the right social services. If … Read more...

What about the officer who broke the news?

I can still see his profile and the anguish etched on his face. It was a profile because we were in a police car. My husband sat in the front, and I was in the back and he had turned halfway in the driver’s seat to see us both. It was an awkward way to tell us and I’m sure it wasn’t his first choice. They’d gone to our home but we weren’t there so they met us in the parking lot where we’d had dinner.

He was white with an angular Romanesque face and a strong jaw. His hair … Read more...

It all started with a note from Ryan

A young man from the midwest sent me a message through a contact form.

“Do you give away free books?” While I have, it’s usually in person at events. Buying my own books and then shipping them gets costly after about a hundred of them.

My friend Virginia Y sent him a copy of Diary of a Broken Mind.

But that got me to thinking

“I wonder how many would be willing to buy a book for someone in need–people who want one but are short of money right now, especially in an economic crisis caused by COVID-19, and can’t … Read more...

I wanted to see my son’s body

Trigger warning: Strong Emotional Content.  

I ached to see him one more time. There would never be another opportunity, so the urge was strong and unrelenting.

In early, raw grief, it can be an almost irrational, desperate wish. I wanted to touch his hand, say goodbye although I knew his spirit had already left because I had felt it leave me the Friday he took his life. Before I got news.

Why didn’t I get to see my son one last time?

And this story begins at the end of my son’s life.

It’s not like on TV … Read more...