Why did I ignore the one thing that was working for me?

When Charles admitted he had an addiction to an opiate, attendance to my support group had lapsed.

Because the house was going on the market in the spring, every minute was needed to get the house in shape to sell.  Chaos had moved back into our lives and my instincts were telling me we’d read more

How parents can prevent drug abuse and addiction

Adapted from a presentation

Even if your child is not predisposed to addiction or drug abuse, one of his or her friends is likely to be. Creating a culture of prevention starts in your home. These are just a few steps to minimize the risk in your family.

This is not a “cure” for those who have read more

News publicity for the cause of suicide and mental illness

Speaker in suicide prevention

Nice publicity for the cause. This is regarding a presentation for Mental Health America in Staunton, Virginia.

And my TEDx is not until December 8 but they saw I had been selected as one of the speakers.  Read the news story here

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It’s just marijuana. The problem with denial

“It’s just marijuana. It’s not like he’s doing heroin or meth.”

“I can’t worry about pot and drinking? We all did it in high school.”

“We didn’t want him to get arrested so we let him smoke marijuana at home. It’s a read more

Setting expectations for the holidays after the death of a child

The first Christmas after Charles died by suicide, I expected it to be hard. All those firsts are hard–first birthday, mother’s day, father’s day etc. Hell, Arbor Day was hard.

For the second Christmas after Charles’ suicide, I was sure the holidays would be better. After all, read more

Why do we call them soft skills?

Interpersonal people skills such as communication and listening, leadership, problem solving, teamwork, and empathy among others are what are referred to as soft skills.

In our score-obsessed, overly standardized-tested educational system, soft skills have been squeezed out by “core subjects” read more

Numbness is nature’s prescription for pain

When I got the news my son, Charles, had been found dead of suicide, my first instinct was to find the escape route. I wanted to get the f–k away from that agony and slide into another life that was shiny and happy.

The news the police officer was sharing kept bumping up against a roadblock read more

Suicide Loss Survivor Day

American Foundation of Suicide Prevention (AFSP) has Suicide Loss Survivor Days all over the United States. It’s is a day of support and healing. (See video below with Shirley Ramsey and Kevin Skellett)

There are some in other areas outside the US, too: Canada, Australia, Guatemala plus read more