New app for suicide prevention and grief for suicide loss

Most Days is an app for iPhone that helps you build routines to support your mental health. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention has partnered with the app, to offer support for those who have lived with thoughts of suicide and those who live with a loss by suicide. (Video below if you want to just scroll to that.)

Step 1: Creating or subscribing to a routine which is a set of healthy habits that you are working to incorporate into your life most days. A library of routines is already written by top psychologists and neuroscientists from which you … Read more...

Sweet Polly sunshine and the facade of toxic positivity

What is toxic positivity? It’s the belief that you should appear happy, even if you are struggling. So picture a person who is skipping through a lollipop land of shiny faces and perfect families with a basket of daisies singing show tunes all the time.

Like that’s for real?

Now there are benefits to being an optimist for sure. But toxic positivity takes positive thinking to an extreme. It minimizes and denies any trace of human emotions that aren’t strictly happy and dismisses difficult emotions. That’s BS.

We need to make room for those emotions, too. In fact, the way … Read more...

New speaker website

I wanted to announce my new speaker website. It probably has some glitches and typos so if you see any, let me know. There is also a blog there but it will be geared to professional pursuits. Your stories, my stories, will still be on this site.

See the new Mental Health and Suicide Prevention Speaker website here.

Read more...

The Intersection of Addiction, Suicide, and Stigma

“My demons up against me
I’m facing them now
I wear the face of a clown
I feel so unloved
Because of the monster
Created from drugs.”

Charles Aubrey Rogers, Rap Song, “Just to Hurt”

As most of you know I lost my son to suicide who suffered from an addiction to heroin. Many think he died from an intentional overdose. Not so. His death was far more desperate and visceral. My son would not have been counted in the stats of overdose deaths. We know 100k died of overdose. But what about all the other drug-related deaths? The accidents? … Read more...

Charles would be 27 today, April 26, 2022

My son Charles was an artist — an actor, comedian, rap artist, and an amazing writer. In short, he was a creative genius and he would have been 27 years old today. He suffered from depression and addiction and died by suicide seven years ago. And yes we have birthday parties for our son in heaven.

Charles loved birthday parties. When he was little he’d start planning months in advance for his. It drove us crazy. But now I miss what drove me mad even though I did think it was so precious. He didn’t love parties because of the … Read more...

Podcast. L.E.A.P: Listen, Engage, Allow and Process on Your Healing Journey 

See the website here. Susan E. Casey is a grief expert and therapist who wants to help people find the light in grief. In this episode, you can join the conversation with a mother, Rebecca, whose son died from an accidental overdose, and how she is finding a path forward a year after her son’s recovery and shocking overdose.

Susan and I met a few years ago when I was writing Diary of a Broken Mind and she was writing Mining for Joy in the Deep River of Grief which is about sibling grief. She was my “beta reader” and … Read more...

Are the ‘what ifs’ and ‘coulda woulda shouldas’ stalking you?

Does your brain gets stuck in self-blame mode?

Do the what-ifs and coulda wouldas shouldas stalk you? I have some strategies that won’t magically make the pain vanish but they will lessen your suffering and help you find some peace.

Some examples of ‘what ifs’

Since I lost my son to suicide, my issue was going down that rabbit hole of coulda woulda shouldas which sounded like this–

“Why didn’t I answer the phone that one last time?”

What if I had gone and picked him up when his voice expressed obvious despair?”

“Why didn’t I call him every … Read more...

Podcast: Anne Moss on The Pursuit of Evolution

casey jourdan interviews anne moss rogers

This is a really good interview with host, Casey Jourdan who has struggled with PTSD as a result of her tour in Iraq and this podcast is part of her personal journey to focus on how people have evolved after tragedy. This is a particularly intimate interview.

the pursuit of evolution
Read more...

Podcast: Anne Moss Rogers on Todd Inspires Beliefcast

Todd Inspires Beliefcast with Todd Sylvester is for those looking to get more out of life, move beyond limiting beliefs and overcome addictions, depression, and anxiety. This one is trending as one of the top 1% of mental health podcasts worldwide.

We invite you to be in this interview to laugh, cry, and grow together.

Read more...

The girlfriend

Charles had a girlfriend named Susanna. (Name changed to protect privacy.) Between the two of them, their weight would add up to one average human. So yeah they were both thin people. While he did love her I don’t think he was an awesome boyfriend. Those with substance use disorder rarely are because their addiction makes them desperate and selfish. Deep down that was not who Charles was.

She had gotten clean by the time Charles had relapsed after his first recovery so it was a lopsided relationship at that point with Susanna acting as his primary transportation and everything … Read more...