Keep it positive! A phrase I hate

All my career I heard that phrase. In advertising, they practically force fed it.

When did we become so fake that anything other than bliss was off limits? There are times when a warped or dark point of view is funny.

One time, we did an ad for Ethyl (now under another name.) It was for a fireproof suit. We featured a photo of a guy walking through fire with the suit on and the headline was something like, “Our guys walk through hell to test our suits.” The client loved it. Except for one thing. Could we make it … Read more...

Book is back from the editor

I met with my publisher today, Beach Glass Books, and got the thumb drive with the suggested edits. I liked a lot of her ideas so far. Both the publisher and editor feel the book will do well. How well? Who knows. I can’t even predict that.

At this point I have a really big list and two weeks to get it done. Yikes.

Deep breath. I can do this.

I need to go through it and make some decisions and then I have to get someone to do a final proofing. So it’s a proofing after the editing. Meanwhile, … Read more...

Vulnerability

It allows us to tell our stories–stories from the soul. Vulnerability feels risky. It exposes us and we think it will make us look weak.

What if we are rejected? How will we endure ridicule? What will the family think? Our friends, neighbors, colleagues?

Being emotionally naked is not without risk or fear. It’s terrifying. And that’s what you feel the moment you open up and tell your deepest truth.

At the same time, it’s exhilarating. And ultimately rewarding.

It allows you to let go of that which has kept you prisoner and pinned to your isolation. That ball you … Read more...

An Emotionally Naked Love Story

I never thought of this website as a matchmaking site. But apparently it is.

Once upon a time, I met a lady named Tamara who became my friend when I reached out to her after her son, Logan, died in a truck crash. Logan suffered from mental illness including a binge eating disorder and lived in the neighborhood Charles grew up in.

So she understood my frustration with the mental health system. And the expense. Even more coincidental, Logan went to the same boarding school in Utah as Charles.

We were instant friends

Tamara wrote this article about her Read more...

Dear Suicide

dear suicide

For years you stalked my son’s brain, took it hostage, lied to him and made him feel worthless and undeserving of life. At first he was frightened and confused but unwilling to tell us how much he hurt.

Because when you deposit pain you inject shame. Is that some kind of self-preservation on your part?

Charles didn’t understand because he didn’t know who you were, how unrelenting and convincing you could be, or how that you’d come back over and over to torture him. Over time, you wore him down until he was desperate for solutions. He thought he found … Read more...

Speaker Testimonial from Dr. Horowitz

59 second video

Our presentation event in Baltimore, MD went very well and I’m grateful Dr. Lisa Horowitz took time out of her day to do this video and honored to have earned both her trust and respect. (Thank you videographer, Mary Tidwell, for shooting this.) We make quite a team and for this conference, we presented with this panel of respected suicide prevention experts.

Let me know if you think the video is too long. When I rework my demo reel, I’ll incorporate this testimonial plus the other ones from attendees.

In the fall, I will be focusing … Read more...

People are finding guest posts through Google

What you see on this page are screen shots of my statistics that show people’s searches from google and on which guest post they landed. If you are using a mobile phone you might have to turn your phone landscape to see them.

These stats illustrate how important your stories are and that they help others when they are hurting or looking for answers. The one above is someone searching for God after a child died. Where was God when my child died?

Someone came from Google and landed on Jill Cichowicz’ story about her twin brother, Scott Neal Zeobrowski, Read more...

Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Randy, me, Richard, and my deceased youngest child, Charles

After Charles killed himself, my husband and I had to decide how to answer questions about the number of children we had, and Richard had to figure out how to answer the sibling question. Each of us had our own answers–none of which were wrong or the same as one another.

How each member of our family answers that question is a personal choice.

Immediately, I answered, “I raised two children. The oldest, Richard, is living his dream as a filmmaker in LA. And my youngest died by suicide.” I say … Read more...

Be Like a Phoenix

by W. Joseph Stegner, Jr.

I repeat to you, what was told to me,
when I almost jumped from the Golden Gate.
“However gloomy the skies may be,
they will eventually clear, if you wait.

“If you jump, it will be permanent.
There is no taking it back.
When the skies clear, you’ll already be gone,
because, on the water you chose to smack.”

He did not tell me in rhyme,
but he told me with honest concern,
that things would get better, if only I’d wait,
through emotions that currently burn.

A Coast Guard Cutter had staged below,
to … Read more...