Reach out to one person

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With concerts cancelled, most stores closed, many of us have time right now.

There are a lot of people suffering from isolation–grief, addiction, mental illness. Since many have asked what they can do, and what we can all do is reach out to one person per day.

At least one person per day.

Dig deeper than the usual, “How are you?” Although you can start there. Have a real conversation.

People who are all alone will appreciate the reach out. Those who are struggling will know someone cares. Old friends will love catching up.

If each of us does that, …

I wish our love could keep someone else alive

A dear friend lost her son to suicide last night. She was one of the first people to follow this blog and I knew both her and her boy. I won’t share any more than that because it’s not my story to tell. Heartbroken isn’t a big enough word to describe how I feel.

For mothers and fathers who’ve lost a child, we never forget hearing the news.

Maybe some of the finer details are shuffled, but that desperate longing in our souls for one more hug and our irrational disbelief that it can’t be true steals our breath and … Read more...

Physical distancing instead of social distancing

by Charlotte Moyler

 I started my time of quarantine before the actual outbreak occurred. I had a need to get away for a time of reflection and healing. So, in many ways, I was pre-prepared for a time such as this. Now, after two months, I have learned so much more about myself, family, friends and life. 

I am bothered by the excessive use of the term “Social Distancing”. I feel people are becoming more connected during this time of COVID-9. I prefer to call it “Physical Distancing”. 

This morning, at sunbreak, I sat outside with my tea and the … Read more...

Grief without the gathering

Grieving together takes on a whole new definition during COVID19

When my son, Charles died by suicide on June 5, 2015, my house was elbow-to-elbow full of people by June 7 every day from 11 am-5 pm. That went on for a week. And I was grateful.

Family and friends surrounded me with love and the Southern tradition of dropping by, bringing barbecue, booze, and boxes of tissues. The hugs, food, and flowers from people’s gardens were what got me through that first tragic week and the funeral that followed seven days later was packed with mourners.

I thought there were …

COVID-19: What does the addiction community need?

how can you help

by Teri Rafferty

I have been volunteering with Into the Neighborhood in the Richmond City Justice Center for 4+ years now but as of last week, we were not able to continue going on visits as we were.

Instead, we have given our volunteers the information they need to write and to email our friends.

Some of us work with drug courts and HARP (Helping Addicts Recover Program) and have continued relationships with our friends on the outside. Into the Neighborhood has organized an adoption process of 16 recovery houses and 3 family units we have been working with. So … Read more...

How can I support you?

Once a week on Tuesday mornings, I’m going to be reaching out directly to daily and weekly subscribers and I won’t be posting here. And on Fridays, weekly subscribers will get the weekly blog post recap and daily subscribers will continue to get their daily posts. 

Given how stressful it is right now, I’d like to know how I can support you more effectively because we know isolation breeds struggle with the subjects we deal with. 

But before we get to that, we’re going to review a few good things that have happened for COVID19:

  • The birds are louder everywhere.

My book is featured on the Virginia Library Website

I hope you will allow me a braggy moment. Book sales tend to sag when I’m not speaking at conferences so this was a welcome surprise.

When libraries in Virginia are open again, people will be able to check the book out of the library. And it’s nice to be featured and you can see it here.

If you’ve read the book, please leave a review and recommend it to a friend who needs it. My heart and soul is between those book covers.

If you’ve not read it, here’s where you can find it.


Isolation is tough for those in recovery

reach out to a friend in recovery during covid19

The recovery community is struggling. The connections, the meetings that this population depends on to maintain sobriety has come to a halt.

The nonprofit organizations that support the recovery community have rushed to make the switch from in-person meetings to online support but they are struggling, too, from lack of funds.

There is nothing like face to face connection. We all miss hugging and handshakes. But lack of it for this population can be deadly.

Just last week in our area, a young man who had been in recovery for several years took his life. I didn’t know him but … Read more...

Tammy Ozolins is erasing the stigma of mental illness

Tammy is a contributor here at Emotionally Naked. To date, she has written more guest post articles than any other author. She is a middle school teacher who is not afraid to talk about her own mental illness, bipolar disorder rapid cycling. She is a health and PE teacher who has shared with her fellow teachers and principal that she lives with bipolar disorder.

Her candidness in the video below offers you a glimpse into what those who live with this illness endure and the courage and dedication it takes to maintain a healthy life. Tammy educates her students about … Read more...

Grief: Music can help you heal

music fills my empty and makes my hollow float

You can write it, perform it, listen to it but there is no denying that music can heal a battered soul.

It turns out music is connected to the pleasure center of our brains and is a great coping tool because it allows us to release feel-good neurotransmitters without resorting to booze, pints of ice cream, or shopping till we drop.

When grief renders words inadequate, music gives a voice to overwhelming visceral emotion.

Sad songs make us feel less alone, happy songs elevate our mood. My son, Charles, used writing and performing rap to help him through his … Read more...