I wish our love could keep someone else alive

A dear friend lost her son to suicide last night. She was one of the first people to follow this blog and I knew both her and her boy. I won’t share any more than that because it’s not my story to tell. Heartbroken isn’t a big enough word to describe how I feel.

For mothers and fathers who’ve lost a child, we never forget hearing the news.

Maybe some of the finer details are shuffled, but that desperate longing in our souls for one more hug and our irrational disbelief that it can’t be true steals our breath and … Read more...

Physical distancing instead of social distancing

by Charlotte Moyler

 I started my time of quarantine before the actual outbreak occurred. I had a need to get away for a time of reflection and healing. So, in many ways, I was pre-prepared for a time such as this. Now, after two months, I have learned so much more about myself, family, friends and life. 

I am bothered by the excessive use of the term “Social Distancing”. I feel people are becoming more connected during this time of COVID-9. I prefer to call it “Physical Distancing”. 

This morning, at sunbreak, I sat outside with my tea and the … Read more...

My mental health recovery

by Jessy Rodriguez

I am a graduate student studying mental health counseling at the University of St. Thomas, in Houston, TX. I have an undergraduate degree in psychology with a minor in human services. Education is everything to me; this was not always the case.

My childhood was marked by trauma and abuse

My siblings and I were placed in foster care. I was removed from my mother’s custody on April 3, 1998, a few weeks before my twelfth birthday and placed in my aunt’s custody for about six months. After leaving my aunt’s house, I was placed in many … Read more...

My book is featured on the Virginia Library Website

I hope you will allow me a braggy moment. Book sales tend to sag when I’m not speaking at conferences so this was a welcome surprise.

When libraries in Virginia are open again, people will be able to check the book out of the library. And it’s nice to be featured and you can see it here.

If you’ve read the book, please leave a review and recommend it to a friend who needs it. My heart and soul is between those book covers.

If you’ve not read it, here’s where you can find it.

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Get a personalized signed copy

“Months later, I am still feeling the effects of Diary of a Broken Mind….I lost my own son to suicide 15 years ago, and although I have read so many books about this kind of loss, nothing has touched me as deeply as this.” —-Mea

Want a personalized signed copy of my book?

This will be a signed copy plus a personalized message with your name, or the name of someone you list. And you can say what message you want if you want that. Where it say’s “Name for personalization” below the paypal button is where you … Read more...

On Saturday night, a miracle happened

This note is published with permission from the parent who sent it. Her daughter also gave consent. Trigger warning: suicide attempt method mentioned.

My 27-year-old daughter had decided that the pain was too great, that she was a burden on everyone, and that since she was going to die anyway, might as well do it that night.

She went to google to find a site to learn how to hang herself. When she clicked on the link, she came to your site and a video with your son’s spoken word. It had such a big impact on her that she … Read more...

COVID-19 pledge

The safety of our tribe members and employees remains our top priority at Emotionally Naked. Except that we don’t have employees but that’s beside the point because I want this pledge to sound exactly like all communications you have received of late in your inbox from t-shirt to light bulb companies.

Hundreds of companies have sent you links to the CDC COVID-19 Pandemic page because you are so anxious you cannot possibly find those resources by yourself. (CDC= Center for Disease Control in the US)

As concern for the Coronavirus grows, we will continue to monitor and evaluate the situation … Read more...

Letters from students are treasures

I love talking to students. My favorite part is what they learn about themselves–the moment when I read what everyone is going through and when the students recognize their classmates are dealing with some serious issues.

The post-it note interaction is such a simple exercise. But the discoveries we make together are not. I’m always shocked by what I read on those notes.

What’s more, so are the students.

Social anxiety, rape, murdered siblings or parents, anorexia and more. Some of these kids have lost several loved ones in the space of a year and they carry that with them … Read more...

When ghosting is a sign of suicide or relapse

when ghosting is a sign of suicide

Ghosting is when someone cuts off all communication without explanation, either by text, email, phone, in person, or all of the above.

If it’s a hot, new relationship, you might get mad. “That jerk, he’s ghosting me. Why can’t he be a man and just tell me he’s not into me!” So it can be a weak way in which one person dumps on another.

Whatever the case, the ghoster usually has some kind of issue. Which means the issue is not you, but them. It’s probably not their first ghosting event. So take yourself out of the equation and … Read more...

Shelby’s Video

chickasaw and suicide

I met Shelby briefly when she was leading a suicide prevention training in Richmond VA, soon after I lost my son to suicide. I meet a lot of people but I remembered her immediately when I saw this video posted.

Shelby Rowe is a suicide attempt survivor, a national leader in suicide prevention and a Chickasaw bead artist. Visit the community of support at HopeInc.com for more inspiring stories.

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