Fayetteville Native Wins National Book Award

Thank you to Kim Hasty for this nice article in Fayetteville NC City View Magazine.

Fayetteville native Anne Moss Nimocks Rogers has spent the last five years picking up the pieces of her heart and her life after losing her younger son Charles to substance use disorder and suicide in 2015……you can see it here

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A teacher’s guide to preventing suicide and recognizing students at risk

It’s not a short title. But I’m loving the cover. Books for the educational market rarely are.

The first draft of the book is done and the first draft to the publisher is due November 30. I’m hibernating in my writer’s cave daily and my brain is so spent by the time I sit down to write this blog post, it sounds like I’ve asked a third grader to take over my blog.

At times, I’m a bit of a deadline mess. Have I got all the good stuff in the book? Plus all the self-doubt that author’s struggle with … Read more...

How to lose victim mindset

How come kids with cancer,
prayers get no answer?
Do you hear their mothers when they ask,
‘Why God why does my child have to die?’
Staring at a vacant sky beginning to cry
Can you hear that? Do you feel that?
This is real rap, God doesn’t hear crap.”
——Letter to God, Reezin the Revolutionary, Charles Aubrey Rogers

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Other family’s children are doing well. Why wasn’t my youngest child?

My child is addicted. My child has a mental illness. My chid is dead.

I remember scrolling through Facebook and seeing other kids go to the senior … Read more...

My book won a New York Book Festival Award!

Woo hoo, woo hoo! I won this award from the New York Book Festival. This is the third one.

It’s Charles’s songs that differentiate this book from anything out there. Charles was a gifted writer. No one can read the book and not feel how he felt. They really helped me understand depression, addiction, and suicide. They helped me get to know him in a way I’d never known him before. And for that, I’m very grateful. They are a gift to me. And now they are a gift to you, too. Thank you for all your support, book buys, … Read more...

In the aftermath of your child’s suicide, the world definitely looks different

by Margaret Thomson

Ten years ago this August my son Kieran, a medic in the army, died by suicide. Needless to say, our family was devastated as we unwillingly took up membership in that most terrible of clubs, the one you never want to be a member of.

For almost a year, Kieran’s deployment had been repeatedly delayed, which may have increased the anxiety my son was almost certainly feeling, even though he vehemently denied in a suicide note he posted on Facebook that his impending deployment had anything to do with his decision to take his life. 

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Re-orienting myself

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When the pandemic hit, my speaking engagements got canceled. Once everyone pivoted, I started getting virtual engagements and the occasional physically-distanced live ones.

But I’ve noticed something different about myself.

I get misty more often–more emotional. Early on, a friend asked, “Have you thought about how you might handle it if you have an emotional moment? Back then I would practice so many times, by the time I hit the stage I had cried it all out. The story was still emotional but I didn’t cry. Early on my emotions were so raw, there was a greater likelihood floodgates would … Read more...

This is my heartache

By Gary, from Scotland

Since April 31, I’ve been suffering from depression. I never knew I had it. I felt so sad, lonely, suicidal. I hated how I was and how I felt. I didn’t want to carry on. I kept this to myself as I am the man of the house. I dealt with it. I had the most wonderful childhood. I never wanted for anything. I’ve been all around the world. I had been taken to America for 6 weeks at a time, and then to Spain for 2 weeks. I look and think, “Why me?”

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Scripts on how teachers facilitate discussion with their class after a suicide

So how do you be there for yourself and your students after a suicide loss and still get through the day?  How can you look for that student that might also be thinking of joining the one who died when your mind is mush? What do you say or do? And if you do it all wrong will that mean someone else will die?

You need to talk about the suicide with your students. Counselors from outside don’t have the relationships with them that you have. They want to talk to you. Silence leaves students who are struggling with no … Read more...