Grief writes me a love letter

grief writes me a love letter

Dear Anne Moss,

I didn’t mean to hurt you. I numbed you at first because I had to protect you. One can take only so much pain and agony at once.

I watched you in your agonizing moments knowing that these would be building blocks to emotional healing. You suffered under my weight and tried unsuccessfully to lift it yourself when you got tired of it. But I do have a mind of my own and just when you thought you couldn’t take another minute, the weight would lift.

At first, you thought getting better meant getting past me. But then you learned that it was about incorporating me into your life in a way we could live together.

I will never go away because I represent the love you have for your child. I am that reminder that he lived and loved you. I hope you understand I’m not the nasty, bad thing people make me out to be. I’m not something people should avoid or be ashamed of. I’m not a “weakness.” Quite frankly, I don’t know where that comes from.

As you travel the path to emotional healing, I will inspire you to do things you would never have done. Meet people you would have never met. Help you become someone you never knew you could become.

I can make you feel like you can accomplish almost anything. You’ll be stronger for having had me in your life. I make life matter more.

I am sorry loss has to hurt so much but the path to joy is often through intense pain.

Remember, I didn’t take away your loved one. I’m the one that reminds you he lived.

I’m part of life. But most of all, I am love.

Yours Truly and Always in your Heart,


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Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my youngest son, Charles to substance use disorder and suicide June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

4 thoughts on “Grief writes me a love letter”

  1. Much truth in this–especially the part about incorporating grief into our lives. Thanks, Anne Moss. It will be 4 years April 28th since we lost Mark. My grief journey is in a really good place. Between working on my grief, helping others and my very strong faith in God–I am full of peace and joy. Your words have been and still are a significant part of my healing. Thank you, my friend.

  2. Really nice and well said. And really emotionally mature….I’m still waiting for some of that to happen in me….4 years and counting…

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