I get hundreds of messages and comments from children, teens and young adults monthly about how parents respond to “mom/dad, I have been having thoughts of suicide.” I then advise these kids to tell a teacher or a school counselor when a parent isn’t responding.
So if you hear that confession, respond with, “I am so sorry. Tell me more. I am here to help in any way I can.” Then do more listening and no lecturing. Many parents respond appropriately but some do not.
Note: I want to comment that sometimes the person addicted is a spouse. And because they’ve never gotten help and you’ve lived with it, you can no longer tolerate being part of that relationship. I understand that.
Don’t say: I guess you’ll just have to hit rock bottom before you change Say instead: I believe one day you will find recovery.
Don’t say: I can’t live with you! You cause nothing but chaos to this family! Say instead: Your father and I cannot live with you. But we love you and it doesn’t mean we don’t want to be in … Read more...