Loss of a child: Say this, not that

Don’t say: At least he’s in a better place now
Say instead: I know you miss him every day

Don’t say: I couldn’t survive losing a child
Say instead: I can’t fix your hurt. But I can listen

Don’t say: Call me if there is anything I can do for you
Instead say: I will be over at 4 pm to take Sara to soccer.
Is that OK?

Don’t say: I know exactly how you feel. I lost my great grandfather last year.
Instead say: I don’t know how you feel. Can I give you a hug?

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Suicide: Say this, not that

Don’t say: You have so much to live for!
Say instead: Tell me more about how you feel

Don’t say: You shouldn’t feel that way. You have so much going for you.
Say instead: How long have you been feeling this way?

Don’t say: Promise me you won’t attempt suicide
Instead say: Please put me on your call list if you are struggling. And while we’re at it, let’s put in some crisis lines now.

Don’t say: I remember when I had a breakup and I got over it and you will to. You’ll find someone else.
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