Don’t say: At least he’s in a better place now
Say instead: I know you miss him every day
Don’t say: I couldn’t survive losing a child
Say instead: I can’t fix your hurt. But I can listen
Don’t say: Call me if there is anything I can do for you
Instead say: I will be over at 4 pm to take Sara to soccer.
Is that OK?
Don’t say: I know exactly how you feel. I lost my great grandfather last year.
Instead say: I don’t know how you feel. Can I give you a hug?
Don’t say: You will have other children.
Instead say: I know nothing will ever replace your love for Timothy. Tell me something about him.
Don’t say: Oh no, don’t cry! How can I cheer you up?
Instead say: Cry all you want. My shoulder is here for you. And I might even join you.
Don’t say: You’ll get over this.
Instead say: I have no idea what this is like or what you are going through. I’m just going to keep checking in on you.