Addiction: Say this, not that

Note: I want to comment that sometimes the person addicted is a spouse. And because they’ve never gotten help and you’ve lived with it, you can no longer tolerate being part of that relationship. I understand that.

Don’t say: I guess you’ll just have to hit rock bottom before you change
Say instead: I believe one day you will find recovery.

Don’t say: I can’t live with you! You cause nothing but chaos to this family!
Say instead: Your father and I cannot live with you. But we love you and it doesn’t mean we don’t want to be in your life. Can we meet for lunch?

Don’t say: I’ve had it. I can’t deal with you anymore.
Say instead: I’m struggling right now and feel helpless. I need to take a break so I can regroup and be there when I can help

Don’t say:  When are you going to get help?
Say instead: I need to find help and support for myself so I understand this disease.

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my youngest son, Charles to substance use disorder and suicide June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

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