Addiction: Say this, not that

Note: I want to comment that sometimes the person addicted is a spouse. And because they’ve never gotten help and you’ve lived with it, you can no longer tolerate being part of that relationship. I understand that.

Don’t say: I guess you’ll just have to hit rock bottom before you change
Say instead: I believe one day you will find recovery.

Don’t say: I can’t live with you! You cause nothing but chaos to this family!
Say instead: Your father and I cannot live with you. But we love you and it doesn’t mean we don’t want to be in your life. Can we meet for lunch?

Don’t say: I’ve had it. I can’t deal with you anymore.
Say instead: I’m struggling right now and feel helpless. I need to take a break so I can regroup and be there when I can help

Don’t say:  When are you going to get help?
Say instead: I need to find help and support for myself so I understand this disease.

It’s not just their recovery. It’s yours, too