Grieving Season

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So I’m headed into my grieving season.

Last year I was prepared for the death anniversary. But not for Charles’ birthday April 26, Mother’s day in May, Father’s Day in June, then the death anniversary June 5 and then my own birthday June 18.

The stretch was pretty brutal last year. I’m not going to underestimate it this year. I didn’t think of all those special days and what to do for those.

The trick is to make plans. Do something to celebrate life. His life. And mine. I’m not trying to avoid grief simply trying to prepare for it. Not making plans for those days will kick me in the @$$.

That’s the trick.

Not letting certain celebrations sneak up on you. I learned that this past holiday. I thought it would be easier than the first holiday with Charles since his suicide. But I was still numb at only 6 months out and had just moved into a shiny new house which kept me occupied.

The holidays hit me like a tsunami. The whole shopping season just devastated me.

So headed into my grieving season, I’m planning for it this time. Setting expectations that there will be hard days and not overwhelming myself with too much and allowing time to grieve.

Because I’ve learned.

When is your grieving season? What do you have planned?

I am so sorry

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and currently working on getting a book published. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.

4 thoughts on “Grieving Season”

  1. Dear Charles Mom

    I feel your pain , we are sharing a similar bandwidth and know you are not alone

    That’s all I can say

    Love from Kate’s Mom in Virginia Beach,Va

    1. Rashes on my eyebrows flaring up before mother’s day. Oh well. Thankful for bangs. Peace to you Sarah. It’s just one day. And I think it was a day that was supposed to be for grieving mothers originally

  2. Spring, in those areas of the world that celebrate the seasons, is about life and rebirth….I think of you Mom’s who have lost their children and I am not sure I could celebrate this time of year…but giving back to others who are struggling or sad can often heal our own pain…prayers to you Anne, Kathy, Jennie, Omar, Laurie and others I may have forgotten…hugs, hugs, hugs

  3. Sweet Anne–I’m also heading into that grieving season as it will be 4 years on April 28th that we lost our sweet Mark. Planning for it does help to prevent that gut punching reality. Since spring is a time of rebirth I like to spend that day at Lewis Ginter Botanical Gardens. Usually the butterfly exhibit is ready and walking the gardens reminds me that Mark’s spirit is all around me in the beauty of this world. I know that he resides in my heart and I know that we will be together again in a place of pure love. Prayers for comfort for all of us on this journey❤️

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