Grieving Season


So I’m headed into my grieving season.

Last year I was prepared for the death anniversary. But not for Charles’ birthday April 26, Mother’s day in May, Father’s Day in June, then the death anniversary June 5 and then my own birthday June 18.

The stretch was pretty brutal last year. I’m not going to underestimate it this year. I didn’t think of all those special days and what to do for those.

The trick is to make plans. Do something to celebrate life. His life. And mine. I’m not trying to avoid grief simply trying to prepare for it. Not making plans for those days will kick me in the @$$.

That’s the trick.

Not letting certain celebrations sneak up on you. I learned that this past holiday. I thought it would be easier than the first holiday with Charles since his suicide. But I was still numb at only 6 months out and had just moved into a shiny new house which kept me occupied.

The holidays hit me like a tsunami. The whole shopping season just devastated me.

So headed into my grieving season, I’m planning for it this time. Setting expectations that there will be hard days and not overwhelming myself with too much and allowing time to grieve.

Because I’ve learned.

When is your grieving season? What do you have planned?

I am so sorry

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked mental health speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational mental health keynotes, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, anxiety, coping strategies/resilience, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

4 thoughts on “Grieving Season”

  1. Dear Charles Mom

    I feel your pain , we are sharing a similar bandwidth and know you are not alone

    That’s all I can say

    Love from Kate’s Mom in Virginia Beach,Va

    1. Rashes on my eyebrows flaring up before mother’s day. Oh well. Thankful for bangs. Peace to you Sarah. It’s just one day. And I think it was a day that was supposed to be for grieving mothers originally

  2. Spring, in those areas of the world that celebrate the seasons, is about life and rebirth….I think of you Mom’s who have lost their children and I am not sure I could celebrate this time of year…but giving back to others who are struggling or sad can often heal our own pain…prayers to you Anne, Kathy, Jennie, Omar, Laurie and others I may have forgotten…hugs, hugs, hugs

  3. Sweet Anne–I’m also heading into that grieving season as it will be 4 years on April 28th that we lost our sweet Mark. Planning for it does help to prevent that gut punching reality. Since spring is a time of rebirth I like to spend that day at Lewis Ginter Botanical Gardens. Usually the butterfly exhibit is ready and walking the gardens reminds me that Mark’s spirit is all around me in the beauty of this world. I know that he resides in my heart and I know that we will be together again in a place of pure love. Prayers for comfort for all of us on this journey❤️

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