One of the most frequent questions I get is, “How can I help my friend who lost his or her son (or daughter) to suicide?” And so I’ll answer that here with some explanation of how those parents feel. I can’t possibly touch on everything. I have a 280-page book that does that.
I remember a friend who lost his Dad to suicide in the 1970s. No one came by. No one called. And then two days after, a neighbor dropped by but didn’t come in. And he brought with him a bucket of chicken and handed it to him … Read more...
Andy pops out of the car with his young owner and runs around the yard. Charles takes to him immediately. They run around together and Charles is conscious that he doesn’t want to look too excited. But I can tell it’s a done deal. Andy will be our dog.
Andy dog is four. Charles is 15.
Years prior in middle school, Charles had made a soul-wrenching appeal in an English paper for a dog. Anyone with a heart would have adopted one in ten minutes after reading it. But I kept my boundary. I had a new business, two kids, … Read more...
Should you hide your tears? Your pain? Won’t grieving in front of your kids make them more afraid of death and losing you?
You looked this up or saw this on social media and decided to read because maybe your sibling, friend, parent, spouse, or cousin told you that you shouldn’t grieve in front of the kids. They’ve grief shamed you. Maybe they said you needed to be “strong” in front of the kids. In this case, they defined strong as hiding your feelings as if that’s some badge of honor–covering it all up for their sake.
“I lost my daughter in 1985 and my second daughter in 2018 and just lost my son 2020😭. There is never closure but I will share what I read every morning to help me through my day.”
When I read this posted on Facebook by another mom, I could hardly breathe. All I could think about was, “If she can do this. So can the rest of us.” I love posting coping hacks, strategies, and ideas from others. Because what might help one person work through grief, might help another.
This event is in partnership and promoted through Ellwood Thompson, a local grocery store. This event is free but to support the cost of software a tip in the tip jar is appreciated but you are not obligated. https://annemoss.com/tip-jar/
This is a practical workshop with a short presentation and strategies on managing the pain of loss. Anne Moss lost a child to suicide and these strategies are applicable for anyone who has lost someone they love. This is for those who may be struggling with a loss during the … Read more...
I thought this when my son started misusing substances and when I found out he was addicted to heroin. I thought this before I went to bed after news of my son’s suicide. And there were other times in between where I just didn’t want to be the one who had to make a difficult decision and wished a fairy Godmother would sprinkle pixie dust and make it all better.
But the night he died, I so wanted to get out of having to grieve the loss of my child. Wasn’t there a detour I could take? And escape … Read more...
This is the half-hour workshop for Bereaved Parents USA. I usually do this live in about 1-1.5 hours and it’s more interactive but this had to be recorded. I will be experimenting with zoom rooms for a virtual general grief workshop in December. I adjust this presentation based on the audience. So if the audience is suicide loss survivors, then I adjust based on that. If the audience has more long-term survivors, I add points for that group.
You all know I’m writing a book. And if you don’t, you do now. It’s a book for the education market about preventing student suicide. The publisher’s deadline is in a little over two months. So unless I get more of your stories, I might miss some days posting.
You guys have introduced me to some awesome people to interview for this book. Thank you for that. I’ll be in my bunker the next few weeks not hiding from COVID but racing to meet this deadline.
Since this is the end of suicide prevention month, I thought I’d share … Read more...