I hadn’t checked in a while. But this blog has reached over one million people since February 1, 2016. And I missed its birthday, too. It was 2016 during a run that I thought of the name Emotionally Naked, ran home, and started this blog.
I needed to write to manage the pain of my grief. I needed to talk and learn more about depression, addiction and suicide. What I found was hope and healing. Thanks to you all for that.
When I first heard the news of my son’s suicide, the weight of it lay heavy on my chest, pressed me to the floor, and pinned me to my despair. As I moved through this journey called grief, I had days where it opened so wide with love and appreciation, I thought it might explode.
There were many times was a kite on a tight string in a high wind flapping furiously in circles–ready to snap any moment. Darkness would move in and rob my motivation, take my energy and render me catatonic.
When Charles took his life, my brain skipped ahead and over the news like a rock skimming a pond—like I hadn’t just been told the most devastating news of my life. My mind actually left my body for a bit as I watched myself in the back of that police car wondering, “Who is that woman in that police car who can’t breathe?” I can still see her, slunked in the corner in shock from above myself.
But just like that, I was back in that picture. “Oh no, how can I get out of this scene? This isn’t my … Read more...
Tamara and Lloyd Braswell (now married) was a story here on this blog. And a writer for Women’s Day was doing a feature on great love stories for their February 2021 issue and they reached out and asked for Tamara and Lloyd’s contact info so they could be included in the issue. The Emotionally Naked blog was mentioned in the article.
See the original story at the link below. This is so exciting!
One of the most frequent questions I get is, “How can I help my friend who lost his or her son (or daughter) to suicide?” And so I’ll answer that here with some explanation of how those parents feel. I can’t possibly touch on everything. I have a 280-page book that does that.
I remember a friend who lost his Dad to suicide in the 1970s. No one came by. No one called. And then two days after, a neighbor dropped by but didn’t come in. And he brought with him a bucket of chicken and handed it to him … Read more...
Andy pops out of the car with his young owner and runs around the yard. Charles takes to him immediately. They run around together and Charles is conscious that he doesn’t want to look too excited. But I can tell it’s a done deal. Andy will be our dog.
Andy dog is four. Charles is 15.
Years prior in middle school, Charles had made a soul-wrenching appeal in an English paper for a dog. Anyone with a heart would have adopted one in ten minutes after reading it. But I kept my boundary. I had a new business, two kids, … Read more...
Should you hide your tears? Your pain? Won’t grieving in front of your kids make them more afraid of death and losing you?
You looked this up or saw this on social media and decided to read because maybe your sibling, friend, parent, spouse, or cousin told you that you shouldn’t grieve in front of the kids. They’ve grief shamed you. Maybe they said you needed to be “strong” in front of the kids. In this case, they defined strong as hiding your feelings as if that’s some badge of honor–covering it all up for their sake.
“I lost my daughter in 1985 and my second daughter in 2018 and just lost my son 2020😭. There is never closure but I will share what I read every morning to help me through my day.”
When I read this posted on Facebook by another mom, I could hardly breathe. All I could think about was, “If she can do this. So can the rest of us.” I love posting coping hacks, strategies, and ideas from others. Because what might help one person work through grief, might help another.
This event is in partnership and promoted through Ellwood Thompson, a local grocery store. This event is free but to support the cost of software a tip in the tip jar is appreciated but you are not obligated. https://annemoss.com/tip-jar/
This is a practical workshop with a short presentation and strategies on managing the pain of loss. Anne Moss lost a child to suicide and these strategies are applicable for anyone who has lost someone they love. This is for those who may be struggling with a loss during the … Read more...