It’s just marijuana. The problem with denial

“It’s just marijuana. It’s not like he’s doing heroin or meth.”

“I can’t worry about pot and drinking? We all did it in high school.”

“We didn’t want him to get arrested so we let him smoke marijuana at home. It’s a harmless drug.”

“His anxiety is so bad, we let him smoke marijuana.”

“My son is not smoking marijuana. His grades are perfect and he’s just not the type.”

I have heard parents say all of the above statements, dismissing marijuana as harmless. But today’s pot is far stronger than the seventies pot and as an illegal drug still in most states, there is no regulation as to what’s in it. And while addiction experts rarely agree on everything, they do agree that substances are not good for the developing brains of teens and young adults.

Giving your underage child permission to use substances means you run almost double the risk of their becoming addicted since they are more vulnerable to substance use disorder during their brain development years. Pot also lowers inhibitions for kids to try other substances. And that’s dangerous in a culture where drug use for dealing with emotional and physical pain is so normalized.

Add to that equation, the caffeine, stimulants and other energy drinks that often keep kids up longer, increasing their risk for overuse and overdose of other substances. While I believe marijuana should be decriminalized which means eliminating criminal penalties for or removing legal restrictions against possession, that doesn’t mean I think it’s harmless.

It was a gateway drug for my son and it is for a lot of kids struggling with trauma, problems at home mental illness. Those with a family history of addiction have an even higher risk of early addiction.

Mobile phones allow kids to live secret lives parents know nothing about. And while parents can’t necessarily stop drug abuse, it’s a good idea to make it more difficult with home and phone restrictions and having a conversation to let teens know where they stand. Denial that “It’s not my kid,” or denial about the seriousness of the substance to the brains of our children puts them at risk for relationship problems, prison and early death.

People don’t start with heroin. They graduate to hard drug use. Which means we can’t dismiss marijuana as harmless.

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and currently working on getting a book published. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.

3 thoughts on “It’s just marijuana. The problem with denial”

  1. You are spot on! I concur with every single thing you mentioned! As a former detox and juvie nurse, I have never had a patient with substance use disorder who didn’t start with marijuana at an early age.

  2. You are 100% correct. If I hadn’t been so woefully naive, I could have seen it and would have attepted to thwart it. My son DID graduate to pills and a few other substances, with ugly results. His argument was always, “alcohol is way worse”. I don’t drink but his father does. So I not only lost battles, I lost the war. My FA supprt group helped. I have made a reluctant peace with his choices, but the sadness and regret roll in like a fog nearly every day.

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