Do what you can, with what you’ve got, where you are

Many of us beat ourselves up about not doing enough or being enough. Or we allow someone else to imply we could do more.

What we fail to do is tell ourselves is that we are enough.

So while I often hear, “Meet others where they are.” My question to you is, “Are you meeting yourself where you are?”

Because if you are expecting yourself to make a million-dollar house out of ten dollars worth of plywood, you will disappoint yourself. You are creating unrealistic expectations that are bound to make you feel like a failure.

You should be your own cheerleader even when no one else is. Because there are many people out there who will say awful things to you or about you. For no real good reason. Why should you be one of them? Don’t join that chorus.

Many have asked me what they should do to give back. And they offer some grandiose example of a nonprofit that is now a national success. Maybe your contribution is the big national thing but then maybe it’s making a difference in one person’s life. Maybe it’s smaller and more intimate, focused on your community. Maybe that’s where you start because all big things started somewhere.

So give yourself some grace. You really can only do the best you can do. And sometimes that just has to be enough.

Published by

Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my youngest son, Charles to substance use disorder and suicide June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

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