Your brain hurts. You don’t want to die, you want to end the pain. It’s intense. It’s unbearable and you think the world would be better off without you.
My son who died by suicide wrote this.
“It’s the worst when you immerse into solitude
Your shadow is the only one who follows you
The mirror is the only one who talks to you
It eats you alive till it swallows you
Wallow through feeling hollow
thinking no one understands.”
I am an emotionally naked mental health speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational mental health keynotes, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, anxiety, coping strategies/resilience, and grief.
As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.
Mental Health Speakers Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.
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17 thoughts on “Ways to kill yourself”
I completely don’t understand why would clickbait people into visiting this page titled “Ways to kill yourself” when there are none, but instead you are told some petty bullshit in my opinion and to call a suicide hotline, which is not that helpful to begin with (I also noticed that you even have tags like “how to kill myself, how to kill yourself, how to hang yourself” and so on, which makes my head spin). You will have to usually wait several hours on hold and maybe some Joe Schmo will answer you and ask you questions like “How are you feeling? Are you currently planning to hurt yourself?” etc. which is okay questions, but then you might get some terrible advices like “Drink some water, talk to your friends or family” etc. which is totally helpful.
I would rather see some real ways on how to kill myself and I agree with people down in the comments who felt deceived and dissapointed thinking that there would be suicide methods judging by the title.
I would also like to say this: Depression doesn’t necessarily kill people, our world and society does.
You make some valid points. But I also know that suicidal thoughts episodes last a limited amount of time and it’s a trancelike state of mind (usually). While you are angry, and that is also valid, hundreds of others have written me saying they had no idea they were looking this up and have returned years later to say thank you. So I have a lot of angry people who say I’m click-baiting and then a greater number who really weren’t fully committed to dying but wanted to stop the pain and realized they did want to live. I didn’t save them. But I helped them save themselves. So it’s worth it to me to catch some angry comments. Suicide rates and attempts have increased and I agree with you that our culture is sick and that it is contributing to that increase. Thank you for your comment. And I am sorry you feel such despair. If I felt that bad, I’d be angry too.
Well, you’re asking the person that helps people find their way out of suicidal crisis. So I don’t know the answer to that. It must feel like a horrible dilemma. Tell me what brought you to this place of pain. And by the way, I won’t judge. I will just listen and respond.
I know. When I wrote it, I didn’t think of it that way. The purpose is not to “guilt” you out of suicide but just to express it from another perspective. I know someone cares about you. But I know that right now, that’s not what is helping you. I know now it’s not the right thing to say. It sounds like you are truly suffering. I am so sorry.
A lot of people in a depressive episode or feeling suicidal feel as you do. Was there a triggering event that made your wish to die more prominent in your mind? While I can’t fix everything I can listen and respond.
This is amazing, Anne Moss. I am fervently praying that your words reach down to the heart of someone who is considering suicide as the answer for their pain. Thank you for speaking out boldly and clearly, and offering hope to those who are hurting in a way many of us cannot imagine.
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I completely don’t understand why would clickbait people into visiting this page titled “Ways to kill yourself” when there are none, but instead you are told some petty bullshit in my opinion and to call a suicide hotline, which is not that helpful to begin with (I also noticed that you even have tags like “how to kill myself, how to kill yourself, how to hang yourself” and so on, which makes my head spin). You will have to usually wait several hours on hold and maybe some Joe Schmo will answer you and ask you questions like “How are you feeling? Are you currently planning to hurt yourself?” etc. which is okay questions, but then you might get some terrible advices like “Drink some water, talk to your friends or family” etc. which is totally helpful.
I would rather see some real ways on how to kill myself and I agree with people down in the comments who felt deceived and dissapointed thinking that there would be suicide methods judging by the title.
I would also like to say this: Depression doesn’t necessarily kill people, our world and society does.
You make some valid points. But I also know that suicidal thoughts episodes last a limited amount of time and it’s a trancelike state of mind (usually). While you are angry, and that is also valid, hundreds of others have written me saying they had no idea they were looking this up and have returned years later to say thank you. So I have a lot of angry people who say I’m click-baiting and then a greater number who really weren’t fully committed to dying but wanted to stop the pain and realized they did want to live. I didn’t save them. But I helped them save themselves. So it’s worth it to me to catch some angry comments. Suicide rates and attempts have increased and I agree with you that our culture is sick and that it is contributing to that increase. Thank you for your comment. And I am sorry you feel such despair. If I felt that bad, I’d be angry too.
so whats the best way
Well, you’re asking the person that helps people find their way out of suicidal crisis. So I don’t know the answer to that. It must feel like a horrible dilemma. Tell me what brought you to this place of pain. And by the way, I won’t judge. I will just listen and respond.
did i….just get clickbated.god damn. cringe
I know. When I wrote it, I didn’t think of it that way. The purpose is not to “guilt” you out of suicide but just to express it from another perspective. I know someone cares about you. But I know that right now, that’s not what is helping you. I know now it’s not the right thing to say. It sounds like you are truly suffering. I am so sorry.
i dont get the point to life anymore…is it just me?..
A lot of people in a depressive episode or feeling suicidal feel as you do. Was there a triggering event that made your wish to die more prominent in your mind? While I can’t fix everything I can listen and respond.
alone
I’m so sorry. That is a terrible feeling. How long have you been alone or felt alone?
From the day I born I am alone
I am sorry joker. What has happened that makes you feel such a devastating sense of isolation?
ok so how do i kill myself wtf this post was so random and unnecessary
Your opinion and comment are worthy. Thank you for taking the time. So I’m here to listen if you want to tell me more. I will respond.
felt this lmao
Wow AnneMoss, this is an incredible post. I can’t wait to hear how many people you have reached. Powerful!❤
This is amazing, Anne Moss. I am fervently praying that your words reach down to the heart of someone who is considering suicide as the answer for their pain. Thank you for speaking out boldly and clearly, and offering hope to those who are hurting in a way many of us cannot imagine.