What grieving parents want you to know

loss of a child

You are still important to us.
We still want to be asked, invited, and included.
We might not go. And then again we may.
We still want to talk about our child who died.
Days, months, and even years later.

Our greatest fear is that our child will be forgotten.
And we hope you will listen and be there for us,
Asking us on holidays how we might be coping.
And understanding that certain times of year might still be a struggle even decades later.

We may still want to visit the grave,
Or have some kind of shrine.
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