You are still important to us.
We still want to be asked, invited, and included.
We might not go. And then again we may.
We still want to talk about our child who died.
Days, months, and even years later.
Our greatest fear is that our child will be forgotten.
And we hope you will listen and be there for us,
Asking us on holidays how we might be coping.
And understanding that certain times of year might still be a struggle even decades later.
We may still want to visit the grave,
Or have some kind of shrine.
It might make you uncomfortable and you may have decided that we should have moved past all this.
But we never move past it, we just learn to live with it.
It’s not your job to push us from sad to happy.
You can’t fix it but your ears and empathy help.