Hanging on for dear life

After my son’s suicide, it was all I could do to exist. Blistering pain, the shock of loss, and fear of the process on which I was to embark left me clinging to the sides of a whirlpool of grief that threatened to suck me in. There were times it was all I could do to hold on.

Finding hope in those early days was a bleak expedition. But I never lost it. If the day started with sunshine, I found it there. If it was a cloudy day, I found it in a flower. There was always a ray of it somewhere and that meant finding it where it was tucked away. I knew it was important because my son’s hope had drained away and that’s why he met the end that he did. I heard it being sucked out of him in that last phone call. But on that day, I didn’t know how to define it. I did feel it, though and I won’t ever forget it.

No matter what happens, it’s there. Hope. It may only be a flicker of a pilot light but you have to keep it lit because that’s what keeps you alive. Never let it go. Never doubt it’s there.

Find it by giving back, by walking outside, by walking into a place of worship, by sitting with a friend. Make the effort because it is worth it. You are not living without your loved one. That person is still with you in your heart and always will be.

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AnneMoss Rogers

AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, mental health speaker, suicide prevention trainer and consultant. She is author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW. She raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost her younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. She is a motivational speaker who empowers by educating and provides life saving strategies and emotionally healthy coping skills. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now that's the legacy she carries forward in her son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website.

4 thoughts on “Hanging on for dear life”

  1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on hope. I need it but 6 months into my son’s suicide and I see no hope from my grief 😢💔

    1. Chano. Expect it to be tough for a couple of years. In that time it does soften and a lot of healing happens. There isn’t a way to fix this but you can manage it to a degree. And part of that is that you relent when the grief comes knocking. You are doing all the right things. We are here.

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