Finding the light in the darkness of loss

When tragedy happened, it changed me. I feel love deeper and more passionately. I feel more empowered than I have ever felt before.

None of this would have happened had I not lost my son, Charles. I would not have scripted it this way. Who would?

Little things don’t bother me as much. I’m a lot more forgiving and not at all judgmental. I accept people as they are. I notice and pay attention to others more. I feel more at peace. More comfortable with my emotions and those of others.

I could have chosen to be bitter, angry, mad, and resentful. Who would that have helped? Not that I have not had those feelings. I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t. But they don’t dominate my life because I don’t let them. And they are summarily dismissed when they show up uninvited.

Transformation is the gift of grief. The secret to finding it is believing you will. And not feeling guilty about it.

 

Sorry to interrupt your beautiful life with my tragedy

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and currently working on getting a book published. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.

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