By the way…

You can have hours of conversation but often the really good stuff is tucked away in the, “by the way.”

All previous conversation is about vetting you to see if you can be trusted. To get comfortable with you. To decide how to tell you or whether to tell you at all. Or working up the nerve to figure out how and when to tell you.

Charles would tuck a lot of nuggets in the “by the way.” Friends of mine have often tucked some real zingers in that phrase.

So be patient.

If your gut is telling you something is up, be an active listener. Listen more, lecture less. You might just find out what’s really going on behind the, “by the way.”

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked mental health speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational mental health keynotes, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, anxiety, coping strategies/resilience, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

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