By the way…

You can have hours of conversation but often the really good stuff is tucked away in the, “by the way.”

All previous conversation is about vetting you to see if you can be trusted. To get comfortable with you. To decide how to tell you or whether to tell you at all. Or working up the nerve to figure out how and when to tell you.

Charles would tuck a lot of nuggets in the “by the way.” Friends of mine have often tucked some real zingers in that phrase.

So be patient.

If your gut is telling you something is up, be an active listener. Listen more, lecture less. You might just find out what’s really going on behind the, “by the way.”

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AnneMoss Rogers

AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, mental health speaker, suicide prevention trainer and consultant. She is author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW. She raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost her younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. She is a motivational speaker who empowers by educating and provides life saving strategies and emotionally healthy coping skills. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now that's the legacy she carries forward in her son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website.

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