As a result of what you’ve gone through you are a better human being and/or a better parent. You are more humble, more compassionate, less judgmental and more apt to be selfless givers.
We are proud of our journey and what we have gone through and overcome. It has changed us forever. We are not ashamed of our loved ones who suffer from an addiction or mental illness, or afraid of what people will think of us because they do or did.
Acceptance. That’s such a good place to be even though we’d never choose how we got there. You often wonder why others sweat the small stuff.
As counterintuitive as it might sound, having gone through what I did with Charles as he struggled made me a better parent and a less judgmental person.
His suicide was gut wrenching, devastating and life changing, but the groundwork from the days when he struggled helped me build resilience and has sustained me through the loss.