Projecting a future is not productive

When Charles was using, way before he was addicted, I had a habit of projecting future scenarios.

After any police incident, I would then worry that he would rob a bank and end up in prison. In my scenario, he wouldn’t get into a good college because of a felony, have a hard time finding a job and a place to live. Since he was so thin and cute, he would end up someone’s bitch in prison.  What if he ended up a porn star?  I projected all kinds of batshit crazy future scenarios, none of which ever happened. I’d … Read more...