Don’t revoke belonging

Sometimes we think this approach pressures a loved one into compliance. But I’ve learned from experience it does just the opposite. Pushing away someone with mental illness or addiction from the love of family leaves them feeling untethered, unsupported, ashamed, resentful, and rejected. And what does that do? Usually, it drives them toward the behavior that they have been using to manage difficult feelings. For those with SUD that can be drinking or drugging more. For those with mental illness it can push someone towards suicide (nobody cares) or self-harm.

Our loved ones need to know we’ll meet them wherever … Read more...