Don’t revoke belonging

Sometimes we think this approach pressures a loved one into compliance. But I’ve learned from experience that it does just the opposite. Consider our loved ones with mental illness or substance misuse. Pushing them away from the love of family leaves them feeling untethered, unsupported, ashamed, resentful, and rejected. And what does that do?

Our loved ones need to know we’ll meet them wherever they are and love them even if we don’t agree with where they are in their journey. It doesn’t mean letting someone with addiction use us like a doormat and allowing them to abuse or steal … Read more...