Whether it’s a son, daughter, sister, brother, mother, father, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife, God isn’t out there to punish you or your loved one for a cause of death even if it’s a suicide.
That goes for those of you who suffer from thoughts of suicide, too. Sometimes “praying on it” isn’t enough and you need help and compassion. I hope you don’t deny yourself the help you need because a group has shamed you out of it.
Someone with a heart condition isn’t told to “pray on it.”
Parishioners and congregations do shun families who’ve lost a loved one to suicide and those who’ve attempted suicide. They may be judgmental at a time when they should be supportive. And if that’s the case, you need a new place of worship.
Faith isn’t about passing judgment or pious perfection. It’s about compassion and caring for others, being there for others during difficult times, especially in grief and loss. And those who’ve suffered a loss by suicide might need more of that.
There are many places of worship that will support those who have lost a loved one to suicide, those who suffer thoughts of suicide or have a mental illness. You deserve that.
God or whomever you worship doesn’t discriminate against or ostracize you or bar your loved one from heaven because they suffered from the brain pain of a suicidal crisis. Suicide is not a crime, it’s a public health issue. Period.