Things I no longer give a rat’s ass about since Charles’ death

It’s actually liberating to ditch things and basically spring clean my brain.

  1. What others think. I have never been one to worry a lot about this. But once I lost a child by suicide to depression and addiction, I totally let go of caring what others thought of me personally. You either take me as I am or you don’t. And conversely I’m not going to be passing judgement on others either. It’s probably why I feel so bold about the mental health cause. I’m on a tear now and I will stop the day I die. liberation

2. The small stuff. I am not going to sweat the small stuff. I’m not going to go postal about something I know is out of my control. For example, I’m not going to freak out when someone cuts me off in traffic. Nine times out of 10, the person is just making an error. And guess what? I’ve made an error in traffic, too.

3. Material goods. I could care less about stuff. I want less stuff. And I’m pickier about what I do get. I would rather pay for something I really want than have a bunch of things that I am not excited about. This whole grief experience has deflated any love of shopping I may have had and I’d rather spend my time with friends or family instead of the mall.

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and currently working on getting a book published. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.

8 thoughts on “Things I no longer give a rat’s ass about since Charles’ death”

  1. As always, Anne Moss, you nailed that one on the head. It’s as simple as the death of our children bring into clear focus what is truly important and what is not. Such a high price tag for this gift. <3

  2. As always, Anne Moss, you nailed that one on the head. It’s a simple as a loss of the death of our children Hudson to clear Focus what is important and what is not. Such a high price tag for this gift.

  3. Amen Sister! You are fighting the good fight!

    P.S. I stopped giving a f*uck about what people think about me a very long time ago. If I want something for a cause I will just do what I have to do! People don’t like it? You may as well keep it to yourself bc anyone who knows me knows I’m going to do whatever I want to anyway!

    Rock On!

  4. You have just explained it in a nutshell. My little man is buried 2 blocks from my house. I can stand in my yard and see his marker. At night it is lite up like a runway. When I go out of town he is my first stop before I leave and my first stop when I return.

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