When I was losing it and started to make myself crazy by projecting all kinds of scenarios that had not happened, I would pull out my phone and read my mantras out loud to myself. I picked these up from others and from the literature in Families Anonymous meetings over the years.
1. Enabling, rescuing or weaving a safety net blocks recovery
Figuring out what “enabling” is can be complicated. So whatever we had defined it at that time is what I went with. It was simply important not to default to rescue mode.
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I have a smart, beautiful daughter. She was a lovely little girl and a successful student throughout high school and college.
She is also a person in long term recovery from a substance abuse disorder. She has struggled with depression and anxiety for years. It has been hard for me to understand.
Because I love her, I keep trying. I fail, I get frustrated, but I keep trying.
Our road to recovery has been long, winding and at times filled with anger, denial, enabling, fear and frustration. Through all of our negative responses and reactions, love has been … Read more...