What to say to someone who tells you they are cutting

You want to know how you can help a friend who is cutting. When someone tells you they are cutting, they are struggling and looking for someone to listen. 

Connect with the pain first

In other words, you don’t say things like, “You are so wonderful, why would you do that to yourself?” Because they might not be certain of why they are doing it and second because those phrases tend to make the sufferer feel misunderstood. The shame is likely to drive them to cut more because that is how they are coping with difficult emotions.

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