What to say to someone who tells you they are cutting

When someone tells you they are cutting, they are struggling and looking for someone to listen.  Connect with the pain first.

In other words, you don’t say things like, “You are so wonderful, why would you do that to yourself?” Because they might not be certain of why they are doing it and second because those phrases tend to make the sufferer feel misunderstood. 

Cutting is basically a negative coping strategy that someone might use to deal with a problem that’s bothering them. Bullying, divorce, death of a parent, for example. It can go from being a habit to an Read more...