How grief matures

Charles and Richard at the beach

When you lose a child, it changes you forever. And although time doesn’t heal, it does help.

Over time,

Tears of agony become tears of remembrance.

Agony becomes ache.

A hole in the heart becomes a wound with scar tissue.

Denial turns into acceptance.

Despair and isolation turn into purpose and clarity.

Deep depression turns into moments of melancholy.

Helplessness turns into humility.

Love with nowhere to land evolves into a need to give back.

And instead of carrying your child in your arms, you learn to carry him in your heart.

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Living with grief. It’s not all sad.

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Sometimes grief sits beside me and I wonder why, at that particular time, it’s not crushing my heart. Those are the days it just glides at my side.

Sometimes it sits on my chest, invades my limbs and sucks my motivation. Those are the days it weighs me down.

Sometimes it slaps me in the face and throws me in a dark hole.

Sometimes it makes my heart swell up and feel like it’s going to burst.

Sometimes grief leaves me on the verge of tears and I feel on edge.

Sometimes it brings me a memory that makes me smile.

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