From Anne Moss: I got this message from a mom that is part of our village here on Emotionally Naked. Figuring out the boundary between enabling and helping is so difficult. Given that so many of us struggle with one in active addiction or a loved one who has died, I thought I’d post this because coincidentally, the issue she had an issue with had a perfect answer in a comment someone posted a few days ago.
Those of you who have suffered through the addiction of a loved one know how exhausting it is. The fact that they are such amazing manipulators blurs all the lines whips your emotions from one end to another.
But if you’ve set boundaries to protect yourself from the mayhem also knows as addiction, you need to keep these things in mind:
1. It’s really very hard to go from “tough love” to “rescue mode.”
They are polar opposites in terms of emotions. But often that’s what we have to do to save a loved one. Knowing that might be how it will happen, can help … Read more...