Let people know it’s OK to talk about your deceased child

What do I say when someone asks, “Do you have children?”

I say, “My oldest is in LA living his dream as a filmmaker. My youngest died by suicide three years ago. He suffered from depression and addiction.”

Bring it up first. That gives others permission to talk about it. Because I talk about Charles often and openly, people aren’t afraid of the subject. So don’t let your fear of their reaction keep you from talking.

If you avoid talking about him for fear of being judged or not wanting to be a Debbie Downer (or David Downer) for … Read more...

Tell me a story about your loved one

Enough about my story. For now, anyway. I want to know yours.

Tell me a story about your loved one.

If you lost a child, I want to know more about that child. Tell me something about him. Or her.

If someone you love is using, tell me a story about the person deep down inside. I want to know more about you guys. Don’t think because it’s your sister, brother or best friend, you can’t tell me the story. I want you to think about who they are or were while you are writing it.

I decided today this … Read more...