From Anne Moss: I got this message from a mom that is part of our village here on Emotionally Naked. Figuring out the boundary between enabling and helping is so difficult. Given that so many of us struggle with one in active addiction or a loved one who has died, I thought I’d post this because coincidentally, the issue she had an issue with had a perfect answer in a comment someone posted a few days ago.
This is such a hard question. But one thing’s for sure, you’ll get an answer one way or another when you set your boundaries.
Someone asked me if I felt like I should have approached my son’s depression and addiction differently?
Is tough love the right thing to do?
Keep in mind that I encouraged her to ask the question she was wanting to ask because she hesitated. It’s a good question with no “right” answer. Given that my son’s rock bottom was suicide, I’ve asked myself this a hundred times. But here’s what I can tell you.