You can’t fix it. But you can make it worse

Watching your child or loved one self destruct with addiction is the hardest thing to watch. It’s like watching a person implode.

At first, we think we can fix it. We are sure we can. If we just want it enough, we can almost do it for them. We just need to know what to do. What directions to follow. Where to drop them off to be fixed. How much to pay.

But we can’t fix it.

We try, agonize, project, cry, pray, beg and lose ourselves in the process. We make their problem ours. After all, this is your … Read more...

It’s not just their recovery. It’s yours, too

This is our new war. This addiction epidemic.

Nothing makes you feel so helpless– watching your loved one self destruct. You want to fix it.  But you can’t. And you may have finally realized that.

You can’t make them choose recovery. No matter how much you want it. They have to want it.

And if they do choose it. You can’t do it for them.

There are things you can do.

One is get educated on addiction. Find out as much as you can. Learn, learn, learn. Go to an education group, a support group.

It’s not … Read more...

I have a son that just hit 2 years clean

by Anonymous Mom in North Carolina

2 years clean and sober

I know they can go back, with triggers and all the other life stuff he can easily go back!

It’s a nightmare being a mother worrying with daily fear of where my son is and if he is safe–with sleep deprivation and riding the roads at night! I don’t know why one child survives and another one doesn’t, but I do know when everyone was telling me to kick my son out because of his behavior– stealing from us and raging with every lie why he needed money!

I just couldn’t.

I cried, pleaded, … Read more...