Everlasting love — #griefheart number 202

This one was sent to me by a childhood friend, Leigh. She saw it and sent it because it reminded her of the #griefheart project.

“The permanence of this stone heart is just as the love between you and Charles–everlasting.”

Losing a child to suicide makes connecting hard because so many avoid you all together. It is comforting to have so many reach out and care. I’m sharing this with all of you moms and dads who’ve lost a child. You truly do love them forever.

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The emotional roller coaster

Those big family gatherings are great–the times when all the cousins are together laughing and telling jokes. We are all together celebrating my in law’s 60th anniversary. I am enjoying the noise and then all of a sudden it hits, that sadness of the one that’s not here anymore.

I have that ache and disbelief that he’s gone. “Oh how much he would have loved this,” I think. Has he been forgotten? My mother in law makes sure he is not forgotten and hands me a donation to a mental health organization in his name.

He’s in pictures of the past …

Corn hole heart— #griefheart number 201

In Georgia with family today and everyone is playing games. Charles loved, loved, loved games. He didn’t even have to be good at them to love them. This is one of the corn hole boards.

He would have enjoyed it so much– being with family and playing games, in and out of the grandparent’s hot tub and eating and joking with his cousins. So much joy and so much sadness at the same time.

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Spotlight hog?

There is one thing about this blog I’ve struggled with. Am I being selfish by sharing all that I do? Am I being a spotlight hog?

As a child I was often admonished for “wanting attention.” I was told, “the world doesn’t revolve around you,” shaming me into a world of feminine propriety to keep things to myself.

I have finally come to a conclusion.

I talk, I write because I want to hear from others about their journey and I am healing emotionally as a result of being able to help others. I’ve always wanted to take inventory of … Read more...

Holiday heart— #griefheart number 200

If you have suffered the loss of a child, my heart goes out to you today especially. Holidays, birthdays and life events are the hardest.

Thankful for the family I have today. Missing the piece of my heart that represents the one who is not. Loving you always Charles.

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What I miss most about Charles


Sachet heart— #griefheart number 199

My Dad won a prize at the assisted living facility. What’s so funny is that he won a basket of Mary Kay products. Not exactly something you think your Dad would get excited about. Quite frankly he didn’t much care about the prize itself, just the process of winning. My mom didn’t have the heart to give it away to someone else.

I saw this sachet heart in the basket and thought about how funny Charles would have found this whole scenario–the jokes he would’ve told afterwards about Grandbobby winning a basket of women’s lotions and shower products. And this … Read more...

The secret door

You can’t understand real joy unless you have experienced real pain.

You can’t find joy without compassion for others.

Tragedy brings with it all kinds of struggles and sadness. But it also presents opportunity and a deeper, more meaningful appreciation of joy.

The secret door is a special gift for those of us who’ve experienced an unimaginable loss or tragedy. It’s wisdom and insight.

It was fuzzy at first and came into focus as the months passed after the loss of my son by suicide.  I now see things that I didn’t see before with such beauty and clarity.

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Human connection

We all crave it. No matter what age we are, we want to be accepted. We look for love and happiness.

That is achieved through human connection.

Sometimes it starts with your opening up. Sometimes it means active listening. I don’t mean you have to be as public as I am. That’s not for everyone. However, you can reach out to one human being.

Connecting with another or focusing on someone else helps you get out of your own head.

I took my dog to get a bath recently. And the groomer, a young lady, was asking about Andy– breed … Read more...

Remembrance heart— #griefheart number 198

My friend Shirley Ramsey, the Virginia Chapter President of American Foundation of Suicide Prevention, runs a support group for suicide loss survivors. They lit these candles in honor of their loved ones for the holidays– remembering them forever.

As long as I live,
You will live.
As long as I live,
You will be remembered.
As long as I live,
You will be loved.

Thank you SOSL-RVA (Survivors Of Suicide Loss, Richmond VA)

What is the #griefheart project?

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