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In memory of my mom, Anne Nimocks

In the photo above in 2019, my mom is at my book signing in Fayetteville, NC. My mother died of natural causes Wednesday, August 10, 2022.

She was a child who was born because her sister LuMaddy, whom she never met, was killed in a truck accident at age 2. She had a sister 10 years older. When I lost my son to suicide, my mom dropped everything and drove up immediately with my ailing dad to be with me, and help us with everything including practical things like going to the pawn shop and picking up some of … Read more...

How can I love someone who is dead?

love someone who has died

Maybe there are times you have talked about your loved one who died and gotten the question, “Don’t you think you should have moved on from all that by now?”

The truth is, a child or a person’s death does not erase them from our family tree or our friend group.

And just because they are not with us on earth, doesn’t mean we stop loving them, thinking about them, or missing them. I buried my child not his memory or my love for him. So why do people who’ve never been through a devastating loss want to pass judgment … Read more...

Podcast: A Mother’s Grief Journey After Losing Her Son to Suicide with Anne Moss Rogers

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Show notes

We talked a lot about specific strategies for the “what ifs” and “coulda woulda shouldas” that come from having lost a child.

  • Listen in as we talk about:
    • [3:00] Who Anne Moss’s son Charles was
    • [4:20] Charles’ struggle with drugs and depression
    • [5:45] How Anne Moss navigated her son’s struggles
    • [10:20] Fighting for her son’s health with medical professionals
    • [19:55] Learning how to get information from her son in a kind and empathetic way
    • [22:15] Finding out her son had died
    • [26:20] Choosing to find the gift in Charles’ death, and grieving in her own way
    • [35:40] What
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Free eBook: Tips for a better back-to-school transition

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What does this 4-page eBook deliver?

  • How to get kids to open up
  • Reduce student anxiety, build resilience, and decrease behavioral issues 
  • Set expectations 
  • Maintaining rituals and routines that inspire comfort
  • Sample anonymous student survey for teachers

Get these bonus eBooks & the crisis text poster with your Tips for Better Back-to-School Transitions download

Build Resilience
teen activator game for educators and youth leaders
Fishbowl game
Short activator games
Crisis Text Poster

We know transitions are vulnerable times for students and their mental health. That means it’s a time of heightened risk … Read more...

Recovery School opens in Central Virginia!

by Kerri Rhodes Jenkins

Three of the foursome who went to the General Assembly to testify for this program in 2020 pictured here in 2022.
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Pictured from January of 2020: Left to right-Taylor Rhodes, Kerry Rhodes, Del. Carrie Coyner, Anne Moss Rogers

There are three paths from addiction: Recovery, Jail, or Death.

After we lost Taylor in 2018, I promised I would find a way to be part of making a dent in how we treat addiction and help create programs that would have helped him in this fight. Delegate Carrie Coyner, Anne Moss Rogers, and I took HB 928Read more...

One can never predict the future. Or change the past.

by Liza Sierra

Trigger Warning: Strong emotional content and suicide method referenced. If you are in crisis, text “help” to 741-741 or call 988

John Michael Carrington, 12/27/1984 – 05/07/2018

At 17, I enjoyed loud music, hanging with friends, and like any other teenager, online chatrooms. One day I got a message from a guy who was 19, single, and from the U.K! I was completely fascinated by him, being that I’m from Texas.

We exchanged pictures, and phone numbers and we both got into so much trouble for running up our parent’s phone bills back then. (Sorry Mom). It … Read more...

How do I help my loved one to stop drinking or doing drugs?

I get this question daily. How can I stop my child/spouse/sibling from doing drugs, drinking too much, and even watching too much porn or gambling? Families feel they have tried everything and the helplessness of watching their loved one self-destruct is overwhelming. Not to mention how it affects the rest of the family and those relationships.

You can affect change. It’s not fast, it’s not guaranteed but you can improve your situation and create an environment for change. It’s important to understand how the person using a substance thinks and feels and how your actions play into their use. Empathy … Read more...

USA Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is now 988

Also known as the 911 for mental health crises, the new 988 rolled out Saturday, July 16, 2022. The crisis text line, a separate service, is still 741-741.

Those struggling with an emotional crisis including substance misuse or addiction, or a person with a loved one in an emotional health crisis, can call or text the 988 number.

At this writing, 988 Text and chat is available in English only but 988 voice calls are can be answered in Spanish or English. Language Line Solutions provides translation services for over 250 additional languages.

Congress designated the new 988 dialing code … Read more...

A special audience

#griefheart Musical heart #8
Musical heart- Originally part of the #griefheart project which is here

I can’t tell you where it was but I can tell you how it felt.

I had been nervous that morning prior to this panel event. But a brisk walk to burn out my nervous energy did the trick. Backstage we put on our mics and prepped for our entrance–the moderator, me, and my two fellow panelists all of whom I admire a great deal. We took our seats.

By this time I was surrealistically calm. Excited, but no longer nervous. I had asked Charles to be with me … Read more...

Did Charles’s sleep disorder lead to his depression?

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Image source: Sleeping Fix

Charles’s sleep issues started when he was a baby. He rarely napped and if he did it was a 15-minute catnap in the car. If I took him out of the seat, he’d wake up and be done with that sleeping stuff. By a year old, I was struggling for personal time because Charles was a demanding child insisting on sleepovers and playdates 24/7. He’d keep them up all night and as a result us, too.

When one kid left, he expected another to come right after and he was relentless with those spend-the-night requests. … Read more...

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