How can you be yourself when you don’t know who that is

“Just be yourself,” is a common phrase.

That can be hard to figure out when you’re in transition or experiencing a change such as divorce, illness, devastating loss or going through adolescence or menopause.

It’s not a good feeling being at a cross roads, lost at the intersection, and left in the desert without a compass. And it’s hard to find yourself again. When I have found myself at this place I’ve struggled to figure out what going forward means. What is that and where do I turn? People at such a juncture often make big shifts such as a … Read more...

What can you do to help kids and teens build resilience?

This is a guide to help you develop a new relationship with your child and help them build resilience. It starts with changing how you communicate and this 11-page guide for busy moms and dads is a primer.

It’s simple while not easy. But it will help your child, teen and even young adult become better problem solvers and learn to understand consequences with small price tags. I started using this when Richard was 17 so it’s never too late. You will be amazed at how much more relaxing it is to take this approach.


Video: Thank you Teri, Nora & Andrew

Teri Rafferty, Nora & Andrew Crouch bought books for the SUD support group at REAL LIFE. None of these participants are in a place in their recovery to afford a book but they wanted one. And it looks like we didn’t do landscape and get every one in the picture. But we tried! It was a great group and I appreciated how everyone participated.


My mom’s book club

I had two book signing events in Fayetteville this weekend. Both were really well attended and the one at Fayetteville Regional Theatre was my mother’s book club meeting. Well, it’s typically their meeting time. Guess what book they chose for November? That’s right. They chose Diary of a Broken Mind. Can you believe it?

I would highly recommend this book for your book club. And if you want to meet in person or by skype, this is the form.

I grew up taking drama lessons at that theatre under my teacher, Bo Thorpe. Such happy memories of those days. So … Read more...

Do you want me to speak at your high school on suicide prevention and SUD?

testimonial about a high school mental health speaker
15 year old student, Cosby High School

I have a list of high schools, however, you might want to request that I speak to a high school near you. If so, please list the name of the school and add other information about that school on the Google form below. That form will populate a spreadsheet from which I will work those contacts.

I will be sending an actual paper letter in an envelope to the principals of these high schools and follow up with phone call and an email.

At this time, I am focusing on high schools and … Read more...

News story in my home town

anne moss rogers

Anne Moss Rogers is coming home, with a painful story to tell……read more

Two book signing events

BOOK SIGNING: City Center Gallery & Books, Fayetteville, NC
City Center Gallery & Books
112 Hay St, Fayetteville, NC, 28301
Sun, 11/03/2019
2:00 pm-4:00 pm

BOOK SIGNING: Cape Fear Regional Theatre, Fayetteville, NC
Cafe Fear Regional Theatre
1209 Hay St, Fayetteville, NC, 28305
Mon, 11/04/2019
2:00 pm-4:00 pm


The world had some nerve moving on without my son in it

How could it keep spinning when what made my world light up had gone? As irrational as it was, I wanted to step off the edge and curl up in a corner. People drove to work, they gave presentations, went to the grocery store, and picked up their kids from soccer.

It wouldn’t slow down because of my son’s suicide. Or for my grief.

Life trudged forward for months and my efforts to try and keep up fell short. It was a long time before I could keep pace again and when it happened, guilt tapped me on the shoulder. … Read more...

Episode 43: Emotionally Naked Leadership

See it on the Authentic Leader website

This is a podcast with Christopher R. Jones from The Authentic Leader Show. When I decided to be a mental health speaker and suicide prevention speaker, it wasn’t easy. Those are topics no one wants to talk about. The world is thawing a bit on the subject of late given the rise in mental illness and suicides. I am sorry it took that to get people to listen. But at least they are.


Sometimes, I want to go back to a simpler time

When I see photos of younger Charles before our struggles began, I have the urge to go back to a day when he was just a happy, joyous child. There is something so attractive about those days of innocence before his issues took him and our family hostage.

I remember when he showed up in our room at 7:15am in the morning. It was a Sunday and Charles was not yet in a toddler bed and I wondered how he got out of the crib. Richard had somehow helped his brother out and we’d never find out exactly how it … Read more...

Can you help? Two asks.

I have two sponsorship requests

I have a private sponsor for this. Thank you!

I’d like a sponsor for screening the movie for $350, The Kids We Lose. Virginia leads the way in suspensions and expulsions. Legislation has been passed to curtail our #1 ranking in the US but for it to happen, we need to learn to not use restraints, suspensions, seclusion and instead know the steps of escalating behavior so we can help these youth learn how to regulate their emotions before they escalate to fits of rage.

These kids are the leaders in the …