Celery heart— #griefheart number 227

celery hearts
Celery heart

Charles loved wings at Buffalo Wild Wings. Hated the celery that came with them. Hated just about any vegetable and made fun of me for liking celery.

I remember when someone told me that if Charles had a better diet it might help with his depression. I definitely agree. Despite raising him with the

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Grief writes me a love letter

Dear Anne Moss,

I didn’t mean to hurt you. I numbed you at first because I had to protect you. One can take only so much pain and agony at once.

I watched you in your agonizing moments knowing that these would be building blocks to emotional healing. You suffered under my weight and tried

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How heroin talked to Charles

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Charles described to me how heroin “talked” to him. He sort of acted out the conversation. It was riveting and unforgettable.

Once he told me this, I understood what was happening in his head. How seductive it was. How hard it was to escape. How it coaxed him into doing what he didn’t

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Covert spaces teens use to hide drugs

So where do kids hide drugs? I went to an event called “Hidden in Plain Sight: To Snoop or Not to Snoop.” It was GOOD!

A teenager’s bedroom is replicated to allow parents to “snoop” around to find indicators of drug use and hiding spots.

“The Teens Care Too” coalition

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Godwin High School Teens Speak Out!

I have had the honor of visiting with this group, No Eagle Left Behind on several occasions now from Godwin High School in Henrico County. They have explored several programs and have planned an assembly with the

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Mental illness and addiction need to be treated together

dual diagnosis

So many times, I’d take Charles somewhere for treatment and they’d draw a line in the sand between mental illness and drug abuse/addiction. Everything seemed to be treated separately although they most always seem to happen together.

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Apple of my eye heart— #griefheart number 226

Apple of my eye
Apple of my eye

Charles was my cherished youngest child. The baby of the family and the apple of my eye.

The grief that is now part of my life after losing my child to suicide, is something I am learning to live with. It represents the love I have for the child I lost.

What is the #griefheart project?

I explain my #griefheart project here.

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Dear Cain,

You were a friend of Charles’ and he was supposed to be in your wedding. But he died by suicide before your big day. It seems like just yesterday that you announced it to me standing in our kitchen in Midlothian. Judea is as amazing as you told me she was. Charles thought so, too.

You told

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Teens wiping out mental health stigma

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Stigma fighters Alex Chaffee and Amy Lacey of ABC News

Like me, they’ve had enough.

They see no logic in the tradition of mental health stigma. Such a lousy, pointless tradition.

They are tired of classmates suffering. They are tired of being silent.

Now that the wave has started, I predict that we’ll have a whole new attitude toward stigma by

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