What does emotionally naked mean?

The closest definition is vulnerability. But emotionally naked actually goes deeper than that. When I wrote the newspaper article about our family’s tragedy that went viral, “vulnerable” wasn’t enough to express how exposed I was. I had bared it all, stripped away the facade, and laid bare my soul in public.

It had taken me five months to write those 1,200 words but when it first published, I wasn’t proud, I was terrified. Because at first, that’s how it feels to be emotionally naked. So how do you know when it’s the right time to tell your story? When you … Read more...

The most chilling part of Meghan and Harry’s emotionally naked interview

ABC News photo. Meghan and Harry Sussex

The skin color of their child, the fact that Meghan asked for help and didn’t get it was vulnerable, shocking, revealing. And so much more.

How different the perception was from the truth. I’ve learned not to believe speculation and I know from experience more goes on behind closed doors than what we can see. I’ve hovered behind those doors of perception myself, curled up into a ball in despair wondering how to fix my child who was depressed and misusing substances.

Meghan and Harry had to leave the royal family for the … Read more...

Why I Wrote About Losing My Son

by Janice Hoffman

Brian with his sister Jenny in 2000 (photo by Zalewa Photography)

In 2011, my husband and I lost our thirty-five-year-old son Brian to suicide. People have asked me why I wrote my chapbook of poetry, Azaleas in October, about this loss. That’s a very easy question to answer: I wrote because I had to. Anyone who has lost a child understands all too well the devastation that consumes a parent afterwards. It’s so important to talk to others about that type of loss, but I simply couldn’t do it in those early days. I was too … Read more...

Keynote Suicide Prevention Speakers

I was honored to be one of the opening keynote suicide prevention speakers at this youth summit with Christopher Thomas Veal, in February 2021. The focus was to get together stakeholders across the USA and create a blueprint for how healthcare systems can come together to prevent youth suicide.

Chris and I represented the voices of lived experience. How did I see things from the perspective of a parent who had a child who struggled and died by suicide? How did Chris see things from the perspective of someone who struggled?

The following presentations and small workgroups were very … Read more...

I didn’t really know my son

demons up against me drugs

It wasn’t until after my son Charles died by suicide that I knew about my son’s agony. How could I have missed pain so monumental? I thought I knew my child reasonably well. His music lyrics revealed I knew little. And his struggles with suicidal thoughts went back years.

This was part of my struggle. All that I missed. The questions I never asked. The pain he kept to himself while he wore the mask of a clown to conceal it. I thought he loved life too much to leave it. But I also know he didn’t want to leave … Read more...

Available for preorder

Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk- $29.95

by Anne Moss Rogers & Kimberly O’Brien, PhD, LICSW. Publishes August 2021. Preorder Now.

Description: In Emotionally Naked: A Teacher’s Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk, Anne Moss Rogers, and Kimberly O’Brien, PhD, LICSW, empower middle and high school educators with the knowledge and skills to leverage their relationships with students to reduce this threat to life. Educators will learn evidence-based concepts of suicide prevention, … Read more...

The best example of cognitive reframing

I might add that it’s also comment of the year for 2021 so far. As many of you know and some who don’t, I get a lot of comments through YouTube from people, (young people mostly) who are searching for a way to end their life. I don’t advertise the video and it’s only found through search, the goal of which is to encourage this person to think of it from another point of view. The video does not offer the instructions they seek but competes with videos that do. Some of the young people who post on the video … Read more...

Over a million and a blog birthday

I hadn’t checked in a while. But this blog has reached over one million people since February 1, 2016. And I missed its birthday, too. It was 2016 during a run that I thought of the name Emotionally Naked, ran home, and started this blog.

I needed to write to manage the pain of my grief. I needed to talk and learn more about depression, addiction and suicide. What I found was hope and healing. Thanks to you all for that.

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Screening Youth For Suicide Risk: Can it be done in a busy pediatric practice?

Many of you who have followed this blog for a long time know what a big supporter I am for using the ASK Suicide Screening Tool validated by NIMH. Suicide is the #2 cause of death for youth and this tool is literally a lifesaver. I’ve presented with the team on several occasions and I interviewed Dr. Abernathy who was the first doctor to integrate this tool in private practice.

This podcast is with Dr. Lia Gaggino about how physicians, PCPs, pediatricians, family doctors, internists can integrate this tool within their practice. Kids (and even adults) who struggle with … Read more...

Just enjoy the moment

You may have found some peace, finally. But you are sure it won’t last. As a result, you put your happiness on hold because you are sure that peace will be shattered so why get all cuddled up with it when you know it won’t last?

The truth is, you can’t enjoy it if you are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. And why do that? Happiness is not this forever eutopia, a field full of daisies that you skip through with the perfect other carrying a basket of muffins and money. It’s not a forever home because … Read more...