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ManTherapy.org – Sometimes life’s dog takes a dump on your lawn

A friend of mine and top researcher in suicide prevention, Dr. Sally Spencer Thomas, wanted to figure out how to reach men who might be struggling with some kind of mental health event or condition. A lot of her work centers around the corporate world and the construction industry, the latter having the highest rate of suicide. She is also a suicide loss survivor, having lost her brother, Carson, decades ago.

She ended up working with an ad agency to execute a way to reach men using humor. The site is ManTherapy.org. There is a lot more to the … Read more...

How a 16-year-old went from suicidal to hopeful

This is a conversation from a series of comments on this site that took place June 1-June 7 from the page, How to Write a Suicide Note. This “how-to” page is not a template for writing suicide letters but a page people land on from a google search that includes resources.

This is part of my work to use search and digital content marketing strategies to help people save their own lives. I have dozens of these pages that rank well on Google and other search engines and I have been doing this work since 2016, answering comments from … Read more...

The death anniversary. Year 7 since Charles’s suicide

charles rogers died by suicide in 2015
Charles Aubrey Rogers April 26, 1995-June 5, 2015

I can say I have healed emotionally.

I can’t say, “I’m over it.”

I have learned to walk beside grief and accept the journey however it presents itself, never having expectations of how it might be. So if I feel low, I sit with that emotion for a bit and then use a coping skill to jump-start myself out of that space. No pushing grief away or denying it. But then no wallowing either. My grief is my opportunity to connect with the memories of Charles.

At this point, it’s less about … Read more...

New app for suicide prevention and grief for suicide loss

Most Days is an app for iPhone that helps you build routines to support your mental health. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention has partnered with the app, to offer support for those who have lived with thoughts of suicide and those who live with a loss by suicide. (Video below if you want to just scroll to that.)

Step 1: Creating or subscribing to a routine which is a set of healthy habits that you are working to incorporate into your life most days. A library of routines is already written by top psychologists and neuroscientists from which you … Read more...

Sweet Polly sunshine and the facade of toxic positivity

What is toxic positivity? It’s the belief that you should appear happy, even if you are struggling. So picture a person who is skipping through a lollipop land of shiny faces and perfect families with a basket of daisies singing show tunes all the time.

Like that’s for real?

Now there are benefits to being an optimist for sure. But toxic positivity takes positive thinking to an extreme. It minimizes and denies any trace of human emotions that aren’t strictly happy and dismisses difficult emotions. That’s BS.

We need to make room for those emotions, too. In fact, the way … Read more...

New speaker website

I wanted to announce my new speaker website. It probably has some glitches and typos so if you see any, let me know. There is also a blog there but it will be geared to professional pursuits. Your stories, my stories, will still be on this site.

See the new Mental Health and Suicide Prevention Speaker website here.

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The Intersection of Addiction, Suicide, and Stigma

“My demons up against me
I’m facing them now
I wear the face of a clown
I feel so unloved
Because of the monster
Created from drugs.”

Charles Aubrey Rogers, Rap Song, “Just to Hurt”

As most of you know I lost my son to suicide who suffered from an addiction to heroin. Many think he died from an intentional overdose. Not so. His death was far more desperate and visceral. My son would not have been counted in the stats of overdose deaths. We know 100k died of overdose. But what about all the other drug-related deaths? The accidents? … Read more...

Addiction and substance misuse pose a safety risk at work. A personal story.

by Leslie Hanson

“Your mom isn’t answering the phone.  I’m worried about her.  Can you check on her?”  Immediately following this text, my cell phone rang with a familiar phone number. It was my mother’s cousin, Laurie. I knew why she was calling.  Cousin Laurie spoke with my mother daily and routinely called me when she could not be reached.  

Over the years, I came to address these calls with diminished urgency as experience taught me my mother was either ignoring the calls or incapacitated by her addiction to opioids. Cousin Laurie had designated herself as my mother’s keeper … Read more...

Charles would be 27 today, April 26, 2022

My son Charles was an artist — an actor, comedian, rap artist, and an amazing writer. In short, he was a creative genius and he would have been 27 years old today. He suffered from depression and addiction and died by suicide seven years ago. And yes we have birthday parties for our son in heaven.

Charles loved birthday parties. When he was little he’d start planning months in advance for his. It drove us crazy. But now I miss what drove me mad even though I did think it was so precious. He didn’t love parties because of the … Read more...

Podcast. L.E.A.P: Listen, Engage, Allow and Process on Your Healing Journey 

See the website here. Susan E. Casey is a grief expert and therapist who wants to help people find the light in grief. In this episode, you can join the conversation with a mother, Rebecca, whose son died from an accidental overdose, and how she is finding a path forward a year after her son’s recovery and shocking overdose.

Susan and I met a few years ago when I was writing Diary of a Broken Mind and she was writing Mining for Joy in the Deep River of Grief which is about sibling grief. She was my “beta reader” and … Read more...

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