September 10 is World Suicide Prevention Day

USA 1-800-273-8255
USA Crisis Text 741-741
Canada 1-833-456-4566
United Kingdom 116 123
Australia 13 11 14
International suicide hotlines

Every life lost to suicide represents someone’s partner, child, parent, friend or colleague. For each suicide about 135 people suffer intense grief or are otherwise affected. This amounts to 108 million people per year who are profoundly impacted by suicidal behavior.

I am one of those people who was left with a lifetime of grief.

So what does #justlisten mean?

  • If someone you know says things like, “I don’t want to live,” “The world would be better without me,” Stop, and

So what’s it like reading my own book?

I had to read it like it was a real book. When I was writing it, I was looking for places to rewrite, chapters to move or to add.

At first it was like I was reading someone else’s story but that didn’t last as long as I would have hoped.

It’s very surreal and it did rekindle the grief and made me pine for the days when Charles was a toddler and things were simpler. That’s kind of odd for a forward thinking person like myself. I’m not one for wanting things to be like the old days.

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Your stories are important

These are from my statistics and I wanted you to see how important your stories are. Hundreds find them from google every day. And still others from Facebook. Years after these articles are written they are found by others who are struggling and want more information.

Guest posts are about mental illness, addiction, suicide and the grief that is a result of all of those.

Submit your story here


I didn’t know.

Charles at 4 years old with his daddy. He died at 20

That phrase plays in my head when I start to go to the place where the regrets are hitting me in the face and the pain of having missed the obvious signs of Charles’ suicide take up too much space in my head.

I could drown in all this. I have drowned in it. I’m now able to pull myself out of the deep end.

The bottom line is I know so much now about addiction and suicide that I often find it hard to remember when I … Read more...

Recovery Fest this Weekend

In celebration of recovery month! This event is at McShin Foundation where I will speak for a short while. Music, nonprofits, food, and lots of people who support the recovery community. I hope to see you there.


Are you guys interested in a private Facebook group?

I started this Facebook group a while back and never finished it. I really grabbed it just to claim the name.

I wondered if you guys wanted a place to talk that was private. If you don’t, that’s OK. And if you do, I will need help moderating the group and need to establish rules.

So let me know if this might be something you’d want. Or not


Look what I’m holding!

You guys made me do this! So here’s my ask.

When you buy the book, due out Oct 1, 2019, and you receive it, hold it up in front of yourself and post that picture on Facebook with the hashtag #brokenmind.

Like this:

I just bought this book! #brokenmind

I will be setting up a schedule to meet with book clubs locally, and by skype, zoom or google hangout for out-of-town groups. Terms can differ if it’s a large book club for a library or writer’s group. I will offer that book club sign up schedule to my subscribers Read more...

September is National Recovery Month

National Recovery Month is an observance in September to educate Americans that substance use treatment and mental health services can empower those with a mental illness and/or substance use disorder to live a healthy and rewarding life. Recovery Month provides a vehicle for everyone to celebrate these accomplishments.

The observance reinforces the positive message that behavioral health is essential to overall health, prevention works, treatment is effective, and people can and do recover.

Do share posts from this site to educate others on mental illness and substance use disorder to encourage those who are in recovery and even the ones … Read more...

September is National Suicide Prevention Month

Do share posts from this site or other sites to promote suicide prevention. Here are some suggestions.

‘My son has admitted he is suicidal. What do I do now?’

Can we stop using the phrase ‘committed suicide?’ (video)

Help me eliminate the phrase, ‘committed suicide’

To those who think, ‘I’m not qualified to talk to someone who is suicidal’

What is the ‘wrong’ thing to say to someone thinking of suicide?

T-shirts are still for sale. Many of you have asked what the proceeds support. When I run a campaign that has a “donation” blank, those proceeds go to … Read more...

How people talk about grief and males

Not long ago, I was listening to someone talk about the death of his son who died at age 29 from heart problems. He said something that bothered me that I have heard previously. I really hate to nitpick what someone says in their child’s or other loved one’s memory but it perpetuates a dangerous cultural custom.

He said, “My son never complained about the treatment or surgeries prior to his death.” I had to wonder if his son ever got the chance to express his fear or sadness of early death.

Imagine if you got the prognosis that you … Read more...