Finding hope after losing loved ones to suicide

by Joyce

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Finding hope after a suicide loss

In 2015, I lost my brother, Doug to suicide. 

It was a very complicated relationship.  He was verbally and physically abusive to me when we were growing up.  He needed help so badly but he didn’t ask for it and “handled things on his own.” I felt so much anger, maybe even rage at times.  I don’t know where all this anger came from.

Then, on June 23, 2018, I lost my husband to suicide as well.  I felt totally numb and in shock.  I know that there’s a lot of anger … Read more...

My son relapsed after ten years

by Cathy

When we think of drug addiction we often think of people who have thrown their lives away; they may be homeless, hopeless, made poor decisions have no support system, or they may be like my son. He was an altar boy, a boy scout, played sports, won academic awards, and has an extended family who loves him and continues to want the best for him.

It could be, and is for many, a dual diagnosis; mental illness and addiction or a legitimate introduction to opioids after a diagnosis of a chronic illness or an accident. Many times the … Read more...

We need to get our kids back to school

Before you draw out your swords and muskets, hear me out. Starting in June, a record number of young people started posting comments on articles and reaching out to me. I used to reply to about 5-9 messages per week from youth struggling with thoughts of suicide. Since June of this year, it’s about five per day.

What are they looking up? They are searching for specific ways to die, how to write a suicide note, and how to tell someone they are thinking of suicide. So they are coming here to this website, on a video I have on … Read more...

How do I help my loved one with an addiction?

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Thank you to my friend Connie for posting this visual on Facebook and inspiring this article.

So many parents reach out to me and want to know what to do about their child with addiction. I also hear from others about their parent, spouse, sibling, friend, or significant other. For the most part, I hear from distraught parents so I’ll use those pronouns but know this is applicable to anyone dealing with a loved one who is addicted.

People are always disappointed when I tell them the answer is to get help for themselves. That can’t be the answer right? … Read more...

Fayetteville Native Wins National Book Award

Thank you to Kim Hasty for this nice article in Fayetteville NC City View Magazine.

Fayetteville native Anne Moss Nimocks Rogers has spent the last five years picking up the pieces of her heart and her life after losing her younger son Charles to substance use disorder and suicide in 2015……you can see it here

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A teacher’s guide to preventing suicide and recognizing students at risk

It’s not a short title. But I’m loving the cover. Books for the educational market rarely are.

The first draft of the book is done and the first draft to the publisher is due November 30. I’m hibernating in my writer’s cave daily and my brain is so spent by the time I sit down to write this blog post, it sounds like I’ve asked a third grader to take over my blog.

At times, I’m a bit of a deadline mess. Have I got all the good stuff in the book? Plus all the self-doubt that author’s struggle with … Read more...

How to lose victim mindset

How come kids with cancer,
prayers get no answer?
Do you hear their mothers when they ask,
‘Why God why does my child have to die?’
Staring at a vacant sky beginning to cry
Can you hear that? Do you feel that?
This is real rap, God doesn’t hear crap.”
——Letter to God, Reezin the Revolutionary, Charles Aubrey Rogers

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Other family’s children are doing well. Why wasn’t my youngest child?

My child is addicted. My child has a mental illness. My chid is dead.

I remember scrolling through Facebook and seeing other kids go to the senior … Read more...

My book won a New York Book Festival Award!

Woo hoo, woo hoo! I won this award from the New York Book Festival. This is the third one.

It’s Charles’s songs that differentiate this book from anything out there. Charles was a gifted writer. No one can read the book and not feel how he felt. They really helped me understand depression, addiction, and suicide. They helped me get to know him in a way I’d never known him before. And for that, I’m very grateful. They are a gift to me. And now they are a gift to you, too. Thank you for all your support, book buys, … Read more...

Coping Strategies for Grief and Loss of a Child

This is the half-hour workshop for Bereaved Parents USA. I usually do this live in about 1-1.5 hours and it’s more interactive but this had to be recorded. I will be experimenting with zoom rooms for a virtual general grief workshop in December. I adjust this presentation based on the audience. So if the audience is suicide loss survivors, then I adjust based on that. If the audience has more long-term survivors, I add points for that group.

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