Is your mailman a drug dealer?

Typically your mail carrier is not a drug dealer by choice.

Comic genius, Mitch Hedberg had a joke in his set about how his UPS guy was unknowingly a drug dealer. Mitch died from a drug-related death the night I went to go see his show in Richmond, VA at the Funny Bone. They had a substitute on stage that night who had been inserted last minute and it wasn’t until the next day we found out Hedberg had died that day. It was the first time I had heard that you could order illegal drugs from the internet.

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Thank you Midlothian Lifestyle Magazine

The May 2019 issue of the Midlothian Lifestyle Magazine features a number of outstanding women of Midlothian and I’m honored to have been named as one of them.

In this photo on the left, you’ll see the lovely Amanda Moore, of Richmond Mom Prom, an event which raises significant funds for youth programs in the Richmond, Virginia area. Once the electronic version is posted, I will share it with you so you can read about all the outstanding women and what they are doing to improve our community.

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Withdrawal triggers thoughts of suicide

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I’m writing this because I didn’t know it and remember telling someone in recovery who said, “We talk about that in our groups all the time. I thought this was common knowledge.”

I didn’t know it. And while I’m not trying to panic parents who have a child in active addiction going into recovery, it wasn’t on my radar and here’s why it should be on yours.

We get sucked into phrases like “rock bottom” and “tough love” but no one ever defines them. They are all left up to our own interpretation. Tough love for one family might mean … Read more...

Have you broken up with mental health stigma?

There are a number of things people say that indicate they hold onto mental health prejudices, many of which they are unaware of.

About four years ago, a friend of mine was talking about multiple psych hospitalizations. Then he realized he had not said it was about his daughter and quickly interjected, “I’m not talking about me, of course, it was my daughter who was in and out of the hospital.”

I responded, “And if it was you, we’d be OK with that because it would mean you had taken care of your mental health.” He froze for a second, … Read more...

Exude a new attitude

I knew a young man
Who taught dogs to dance
and could hypnotize frogs
to go into a trance

Some days he would feel
So blue and so sad
Then the very next day
Stay up all night to play

He was a creative soul
Who was misunderstood
He suffered bipolar
Which is a brain disorder

People called him weak
The hurt was deep
One sorry sorry night
He tried to take his life

People called it selfish
They even got mad
They just didn’t get
He was very, very sad

Then one day a boy said,
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I don’t want to turn down kids

Beacon Tree Foundation, a nonprofit founded by Tom and Diana Leahy for the purpose of supporting youth mental health and suicide prevention. Our annual fundraiser, a cocktail party and youth concert.

The event is Saturday, April 28, 2019 at Lewis Ginter Botanical Gardens in Richmond, VA. Tickets are $50 each. And we need to pack the house because the event is paid for already and all ticket sales and donations go straight to help kids.

We help pay for psychological evaluations and treatment not covered by insurance or medicaid for Virginia youth 21 and under.

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Would Charles be proud of me?

People tell me that. But would he? There are a lot of things I do that I think he’d laugh at. In a good way.

Charles would sometimes make fun of me in a way that was not cruel or mean. It was his way of showing me another side of myself in a funny and entertaining way. And even now when I do some things, I think he is laughing at me like he used to. And then I chuckle and think, “You’re right Charles. I need to get over myself.”

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Book offers

Laying out the offers for those on my subscriber list. My book will be out in October 2019 and you could win! Some of these offers are repeats but I finally firmed them up for my deserving tribe.

  1. A free, signed advance copy of my book before it’s released to the public for sale (one will be given away)
  2. free, signed copy of the book once it comes out (one will be given away)
  3. Book Club by Zoom. If you have a book club, I will visit by zoom (for those out of town.) For a local book
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How can I love a dead child?

After my son Charles died by suicide, I had to learn to accept the loss –a brutal and agonizing process. I wondered where all that love I had for my child was going to go since he was no longer with me as a living being.

Somehow I thought I would redistribute that love elsewhere. I do share it more now as a salve to the ache that loss has left. But I have never stopped loving or talking to Charles, which if you saw me, would look a lot like I was talking to the air.

I’ve developed … Read more...