How one mom moves forward after losing her children

as i sit in heaven

“I lost my daughter in 1985 and my second daughter in 2018 and just lost my son 2020😭. There is never closure but I will share what I read every morning to help me through my day.”

When I read this posted on Facebook by another mom, I could hardly breathe. All I could think about was, “If she can do this. So can the rest of us.” I love posting coping hacks, strategies, and ideas from others. Because what might help one person work through grief, might help another. 

We can survive loss. We can survive loss of a … Read more...

Shirley Ramsey tells her story

My dear friend and co-facilitator for RVA Survivors of Suicide Loss Group tell her story on this podcast. Shirley started the Virginia chapter of the American Foundation of Suicide Prevention. She has stepped down from that role although she is still on the board and serves as head of Loss & Healing.

She lost a son to suicide, Jackson at 15, her mother, her uncle, her nephew, and her grandmother. And yet she has found a way to move forward, give back, and be at the forefront of this conversation. It will be worth your time.

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Coping strategies for extreme emotions

Whether you’ve lost someone you love, your are struggling with thoughts of suicide, or you are suffering under the weight of any extreme emotion, there are strategies for managing the tsunami.

Here are four responses to extreme emotion.

  • Change in temperature
  • Intense exercise
  • Paced breathing
  • Cheerleading

To employ any one of these strategies, you have to create a pause. That’s a mindfulness technique of stopping yourself and taking one deep breath. There are times in life you don’t have time for a deep breath.

Change in temperature

A change in temperature, usually cold actually has an effect on your body … Read more...

One Teacher’s License Plate Mental Health Project

Written by Anne Moss Rogers from an interview with Tammy Ozolins, Middle School Teacher, Pocohantas Middle School in Henrico, VA

3D printer plate from student design- Image from Tammy Ozolins
This was the student design. Since the original images were too small for publishing in the book, designer Carolyn Tye McGeorge rendered these in high resolution for publication.

Tammy Ozolins, also known to her middle school students as Ms. Oz, is lucky to have the full support of her principal and the school counselors in her efforts to have open conversations on mental health topics. For her students’ school projects … Read more...

Book number two manuscript sent

The first draft is done and sent to the publisher, Jossey Bass, a division of Wiley Publishing. And it’s now with the editor and will be sent out for peer review. I’ll get it back some time in January and have one more edit. I’m not sure what to expect. Will I be the one to merge all the comments from the reviewers?

Kim O’Brien Ph.D. and I interviewed over thirty experts, school counselors, teachers, students, and principals. And we included data from Kim’s studies and comments from mine. I didn’t realize I had so much data on this blog, … Read more...

Coping Strategies for Grief & Loss Virtual Workshop

Tuesday, December 8, 2020 05:00 PM- 6:30 PM EST

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This event is in partnership and promoted through Ellwood Thompson, a local grocery store. This event is free but to support the cost of software a tip in the tip jar is appreciated but you are not obligated. https://annemoss.com/tip-jar/

This is a practical workshop with a short presentation and strategies on managing the pain of loss. Anne Moss lost a child to suicide and these strategies are applicable for anyone who has lost someone they love. This is for those who may be struggling with a loss during the … Read more...

You’ve helped me give away 63 books

It all started with Ryan. He is a young man, a student, studying in the funeral director’s track and had lost his dad. While I have donated books, it’s usually in person at events and I can’t afford to lose money on it. Buying my own books and then shipping them gets costly. But it got me to thinking.

How many who were not able to afford it right now, want it? I figured no one would be interested in gifting someone else a book or getting one. I don’t know why. And I feel awful for underestimating your generosity … Read more...

How do you help someone who doesn’t want help?

We want our loved ones to go to therapy, rehab, take their medication or do their follow-up. But many times with those who struggle with behavioral health, whether mental illness, addiction, or both, don’t always want to comply with treatment. What’s more, teens doing drugs want even less to do with healthcare because they have “all-natural” solutions to the pain they are enduring. Never mind that they move to unnatural remedies.

The point is, they don’t want to listen to you. And you may not have the relationship now to get them to accept treatment or take medication. Not because … Read more...

Christian Suicide Prevention Summit

Cyber Monday!

Monday, November 30, 2020

This starts at 9am PST/12pm EST

I speak at 1:20 pm on the subject of, “How can I help a loved one who doesn’t want help?” All talks are thirty minutes each.

No cost

Speakers: Tom Ziglar, Tracey Mitchell, Brian Bogert, Heather Peidrahita, Anne Moss Rogers (me).

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Won Finalist in the 2020 Best Book Awards

Diary of a Broken Mind is an Award-Winning Finalist in the Health: Addiction & Recovery category of the 2020 Best Book Awards sponsored by American Book Fest.

The book listing is live on AmericanBookFest.com and will remain active for an additional ten months.

Thank all of you for buying the book, for leaving reviews at Good Reads, Barnes& Nobles, and Amazon. They mean a lot. If you know someone who has lost a child to addiction or suicide, someone who has a child who is currently suffering from those, or a young adult who would like to see the perspective … Read more...