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Linkedin post about grieving parents

I posted the following on LinkedIn. Below are some of the lovely quotes from that post.

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What grieving parents want you to know….

You are still important to us.
We still want to be asked, invited, and included.
We might not go. And then again we may.

We still want to talk about our child who died.
Days, months, and even years later.
Our greatest fear is that our child will be forgotten.
We hope you will listen and be there for us, asking us on holidays how we might be coping.
And understanding that certain times of year might still be a struggle even decades later.

We may still want to visit the grave,
Or have some kind of shrine.
It might make you uncomfortable and you may have decided that we should have moved past all this.

But we never move past it, we just learn to live with it.
It’s not your job to push us from sad to happy.
You can’t fix it but your ears and empathy help.

The one first is from someone who has not lost a child. So we are reaching people outside our “club.”

Wisdom from parents who’ve lost a child:

“Anne Moss Rogers I’m going to read your book. Your post so resonates with me, not for one suffering a loss, but for one to better understand others who have. Grief, should not be surrounded by others’ grief– grief needs to be surrounded by understanding. When I first looked at your post I said to myself what a handsome young man, and then it sunk in. What was he feeling that others did not know? Thank you, from the bottom of my heart!”
Stephen Cohen, landscaper

“The best humans will sit by your side in your grief and do absolutely nothing to change how you feel…..”

Amanda Murphy

“I just heard someone say in an interview this morning, that we are allergic to grief in this country…”

Leslie Weirich, Suicide Prevention Specialist, Mental Health Youth Advocate, Motivational Speaker

“…….We lost our son on April 29, 2021, in a car accident. We’ve been wrestling with all the things you mentioned in your post and have seen the best in many and the worst in some as we continue to grieve this loss and try to find our way down this new road we find ourselves on. We did not want to be part of this club – but I’m often amazed at how quickly a connection is born when I meet other members of this club….”

Chris Dukes, Vice President Information Technology at Aspen Surgical

“Too many people think that loss of a child and the tremendous amount of grief that follows us FOREVER, should end at some point in our lives.
Truth is grief is with us forever, hitting us like the waves of the ocean on the beach gently every day. Sometimes hitting us like an unpredictable storm, and then there are those days it hits like a tsunami wanting to drag us out to sea and it does, but we come back fighting to hold on to our precious memories of our child.
In loving memory of middle son, Jordan Michael Baxter 1.10.85 💙 12.24.08 Always on my mind, FOREVER in my heart ❤”

Sue Bennett Baxter, Business Development Manager at First Call Staffing

“…..Grief is a journey with no final destination. Sometimes it is forward, sometimes you go back. Good memories, bad. Pride, shame, guilt, regret come at times, but so does laughter, joy, pride, love. My journey with grief has been 28 years, and while today is not the same as day 1, the loss will always be there and the emotions – good and bad – visceral. My way of overcoming it was making a conscious decision to take the grief and make it a strength as opposed to letting it consume me. Being able to talk about loss, being honest on how I felt about it, and internal blame all helped.”

Brian McDonnell out of network, Global Head, Marketplaces

“This is absolutely beautiful! Grief is something that you don’t get past. Like you said you learn to live with it but when people see you laugh and move on they think you forgot and aren’t in pain anymore. But you are and always will be.
Through these words, your son is living and he is one lucky guy 🙌”

Nafissatou Tankary (She/Her), Visionary Leader | Digital Economy & Women Empowerment Advocate| Bilingual

“This post goes to show how much opportunity for education and support actually exists. People don’t like being uncomfortable and this is a very uncomfortable topic. ….Speaking their truth IS how things get better. For them. For you too believe it or not. For everyone. Seriously. If you can’t handle it, don’t look away, scroll past it or pretend it doesn’t exist. If you do, you’re part of the problem.

Imagine, just for a second, that it’s your loved one. Embrace that discomfort. Empathy and support should be natural after that. That’s how things get better. Slowly, but surely. In summary, don’t look away. Give a hug instead. Or at least direct your thumb to the Like/Support/Care button and keep your flack to yourself.”

Andrew Wright, Consultant and Advisor | Entrepreneur | Crypto and Digital Asset Enthusiast and Advocate

“I lost my teenage son and I will never get over it, he was my only child but I have learned to live with it. I do have a beautiful life and that’s what Jonathan would want me to do.”

Donna Richards


“Thank you for being able to articulate what so many of us bereaved parents cannot. ❤️❤️❤️
While there is no easy answer, I think your words just scream… be there, and listen….
Thank you”

Diane S., Mortgage Loan Processor at NVR, Inc.

“…..It’s harder when people don’t mention my son at all because they think it will hurt me. It hurts more when no one mentions him at all.”
Kimberli Mock, SPHR, SHRM-SCP, Coach at TalentEvolutions

“This is an amazingly difficult topic – I wish there was some additional talk on siblings left behind – I can’t imagine the pain of losing a child; however I have seen too much the wreckage of a sibling still alive and borderline forgotten or neglected – how does a parent deal with the loss of one child without shutting out the surviving one…???”
Jason Adams MBA

If you want to add your story or quote, do so in the comments here or add yours to the post on LinkedIn.

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my younger son, Charles to substance use disorder and suicide on June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, coping strategies/resilience, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

2 thoughts on “Linkedin post about grieving parents”

  1. Our 23 year old son passed away as he was battling colorectal cancer. He was diagnosed at 22. Misdiagnosed for months. We prayed desperately for his healing. But everything that could go wrong went wrong. He suffered so much.
    We are Catholic raised that prayers work, praying helps etc. I have 3 more boys that I am in constant fear something will happen to them. I pray constantly that they find a way to have faith and joy on this earth.
    One in therapy now for depression.
    But our prayers weren’t answered for our 23 year old son so I’m so scared they won’t be answered for my other boys.
    I read a lot of posts from people beginning with thank God my prayers answered, or thanks for the prayers that I got my new job, Newhouse, good news etc. and wonder why oh why weren’t our prayers answered for our son to have good doctors, to have the chemo work, to not have pain. If God truly loves us why did he let my kid die? Now me , my husband and our 3 boys our lives forever riddled with sadness .

    1. I totally get how you feel. While my son was using drugs I prayed and prayed he would stop. And after he died I realized that faith is not an insurance policy but doesn’t insulate us from bad things. So I decided to spray for the strength to manage whatever comes my way. And my whole attitude changed. I did feel him support my efforts to heal myself. To find groups of support. But when I read “my prayers were answered” I just roll my eyes. In my head and joy outwardly. Because honestly it’s just luck. I am so sorry your lost your son. I know that pain. The agony. It’s so hard to go in at first. But I did work at it. I wrote a lot. But honestly nothing was as helpful as this community here. I had no idea so many sad people coming together would bring me such joy.

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