Be the captain of your emotions not captive to them

by Dana

Emotional stress, discord, confusion, can get so deep and out of control, you cannot find a way out. That torment can lead you to think the only way to end this torment is to end it all.

A person can learn some emotion control.

It’s like learning how to become your own counselor

It’s like a one-step program. You learn to see your emotions, you separate each one, and you start asking, I know I am angry, I’m ok with being angry, why am I angry? Is there a way I can change the situation I’m angry about? Do I need to change myself in order not to be angry about this situation? I don’t know right now, but I will try to relax and take three long and slow deep breaths in the nose and out the mouth. Then move on to the next emotion.

I am sad, what about my situation makes me sad? It’s ok to be sad.

You find and work with every emotion even the good emotions.

I am happy. What are the things in my life that I’m happy about?

The mind can only deal with one thing at a time. And when you are at the point of taking your own life, it’s that all these emotions are jumbled into one big mess of confusion. And it takes taking care of one thing at a time.

In reality, life comes with good and bad

It’s about learning how to live with both. And learning how to work with yourself and all your emotions in ways that can help you try to keep things in somewhat of a balance.

It’s also a way to discover and learn more about who you are internally. When a person no longer fears what they see in the mirror, the adventure, the learning is amazing, not only do you learn more about yourself, you also become so much stronger. And in the future when something happens that causes out-of-control emotions, you will have the tools needed to help yourself in a way that does not leave you so devastated.

I encourage everyone to take some time to learn emotion control and ways to work with each one because once you learn some self-control, it gives you a better feeling all around that you do have some control of yourself and all the stresses that exist around them.

Even those who have suffered a loss can use these same techniques. Don’t be afraid to talk to the wall when no one is around. Listen to what you say and you might hear the answer you need come out of your own mouth.

No matter what we all have been through, going through right now, and in the future. Always remember we are all still wonderful loving, caring, beautiful people.

Published by

Anne Moss Rogers

I am an emotionally naked TEDx speaker, and author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk. I raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost my younger son, Charles to substance use disorder and suicide on June 5, 2015. I help people foster a culture of connection to prevent suicide, reduce substance misuse and find life after loss. My motivational, training and workshop topics include suicide prevention, addiction, mental illness, coping strategies/resilience, and grief. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website. Trained in ASIST and trainer for the evidence-based 4-hour training for everyone called safeTALK.

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