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Should you delay the funeral service after a death?

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Covid-19 has us asking this a lot.

Many want the big service and due to restrictions, people decide to delay it. But given that a funeral is the only culturally accepted and sanctioned event to kick off the grieving process, I think it’s important to do something shortly after the person dies. But what do you do?

Check state restrictions. Usually, an outdoor gathering is acceptable in most places provided guidelines are followed. For example, in the state of North Carolina for my father’s funeral, we were allowed to have 25 outside. We maintained physical distancing and wore masks even outdoors.

There are virtual options, too and many funeral homes offer this option. So ask.

Had we delayed my Dad’s service, when would we have had it? What kind of service would we have three months or six months later? The truth is we don’t know. It didn’t feel right to delay it indefinitely.

You can always have a celebration of life later. But that initial event to memorialize the death of someone you love right after it happens is important even if it’s a family picnic.

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AnneMoss Rogers

AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, mental health speaker, suicide prevention trainer and consultant. She is author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW. She raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost her younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. She is a motivational speaker who empowers by educating and provides life saving strategies and emotionally healthy coping skills. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now that's the legacy she carries forward in her son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website.

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