- Shame keeps those in addiction sick and using
- Ryan’s mom did set boundaries. He was not allowed in the house. No dropping off money or paying rent. Those were her boundaries.
- She was always a phone call away. Always would listen no matter how absurd his conversation. Allowed him to vent and encouraged him to get help. Always willing to be there. Took him meals, met him for lunch. Always let him know he was loved and there to help him find recovery
- Recommends looking locally for treatment. Don’t go for Vacation Riviera setups. Ask to talk to the medical director. See if they have inpatient treatment programs. Are they licensed? Is there a transition plan?
- RCO Recovery Community Organization. Are there entry points to treatment, recovery, and transition to housing, jobs, food?
- No one with SUD ever wants to go to the recovery house but that’s the best place for them
Thank you
Sorry. But strangely I received a card with $10 staples inside from my angry landlord who lives next door (duplex) who has been texting me “I can’t stand you and I don’t like you— MOVE!!”
We used to get along. But I think the “me to” movement has made him angry and caused us both awkwardness.
But still. Too strange
Yesterday was my birthday. My mom texted me a cold text. She’s out of state. Basically reinforced her position: don’t want to be unconvinced with my feelings which I don’t ever share at this point. How do I plead with a conservative religious trump supporter who is convinced I’m going straight to hell for being as bad as an adult as I was as a child with bad grades. Here we are still. And I’ve never accused her of having any part of my abuse. Even though she let him back in and he continued. I’m still having flashbacks and nightmares. I’m 58 (59 yesterday) and still just the problem kid
I know no one is reading this. I don’t know where this goes. But I am still shocked and hurt. It just happened yesterday. So that I don’t have to “whine” about it to anyone since my sister doesn’t care and that’s my ONLY family.
WHY.
I am so sorry. Sometimes parents are not supportive due to just being tied to a doctrine or view. Abuse, mental health, substance misuse are all so stigmatized.
Katrina,
I am sorry. You should know that there are many people who read this Blog that will understand how you feel. This is a safe place to share your feelings. This Tribe, Anne Moss has collected, gets it. If you want to talk, we will listen. We may not have any answers but we welcome you to join us. We embrace you.
Thank you Teri.