We do not want to experience pain. No one wants withdrawal, wants to lose someone they love, wants to suffer the aftermath of surgery.
However, that pain is how your body and brain heal. While you are in agony, you are healing. The body is adjusting, letting it in, and then lifting it and develops a rhythm with its own cadence. Every unbearable moment you survive is building your emotional muscle.
And your body and brain are recognizing ways to manage the pain so that next time you are more prepared.
I’ve always said the path to real joy is through pain because it’s only after you’ve experienced it that you can truly appreciate what you have and find joy little things. So in a way, pain is a gift.
Someone wrote to me today and told me he took a tour around a beautiful, magical garden. The experience delivered one of the better days he’s had in a long time. This man has struggled through an unbearable depressive episode that has lasted weeks and has fought every day for his life. Resources, where he lives, are not as accessible as they usually are yet he found joy today in this experience.
Had he not experienced the darkness, would he have found such light on that garden tour? Would it have been as enriching an experience?
So if you are in pain or have suffered pain, it wasn’t all in vain. Those cutting marks, dark moments, and surgery stitches are battle scars. That agony after you lost someone you loved has a purpose. It’s not always clear in that moment but later it softens and because part of the tapestry of your life. One in which you endured and persevered and survived so you could move forward.