What’s it like to cold call parents whose children have killed themselves?

Micheal Wilson was faced with this when he wrote an article about a therapeutic boarding school Charles attended.

He called a number of parents. I was one of them. He found me through this blog.

I didn’t think about it when he called me. I just wanted to share my experience. It was only after when he called me back that he shared how uncomfortable it was calling all those parents who were devastated. It’s an interesting story and I appreciate that I got to share some of mine.

Read the story in the New York Times Insider 

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AnneMoss Rogers

AnneMoss Rogers is a mental health and suicide education expert, mental health speaker, suicide prevention trainer and consultant. She is author of the Book, Diary of a Broken Mind and co-author of Emotionally Naked: A Teacher's Guide to Preventing Suicide and Recognizing Students at Risk with Kim O'Brien PhD, LICSW. She raised two boys, Richard and Charles, and lost her younger son, Charles to addiction and suicide on June 5, 2015. She is a motivational speaker who empowers by educating and provides life saving strategies and emotionally healthy coping skills. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now that's the legacy she carries forward in her son's memory. Mental Health Speakers Website.

4 thoughts on “What’s it like to cold call parents whose children have killed themselves?”

  1. Dear Anne
    Thank you for carrying the legacy forward after your son’s suicide death. I’m extremely grateful that you are here teaching, writing, counselling people who are going through grief
    and victims of mental illness. May God bless you with more and grace,wisdom and courage,so that you continue to touch lives of many.
    I personally, I’m still struggling with bunches of grief and personal blame after my most kind and genius , charitable, God loving son, Eng.Saint Wisdom Ramos died of blood clot, 3 years ago at the age 29 years. My son was sick for one week, but with all the knowledge I have , I couldn’t suspect a blood clot in his leg.And when i now look back and see, it was obvious that that pain in his leg could result into a blood clot. My son died on the way to the hospital and I was upcountry. Up date I find it very difficult to forgive myself. Most friends I expected to have been there for me, have not responded accordingly; But God has surrounded me with people I didn’t expect, and these wonderful people have done a great job in supporting our family.
    I took it upon me to continue supporting the orphanage home he had opened, with the help of Sait Wisdom Ramos friends. We are formalising the registration of charity organisation and also doing some amazing charity activities.
    The friends of my son are also completing the formulation of a documentary of Saint Wisdom Ramos.
    I also do voluntary counselling to those grieving .
    My humble advise is that God is real and his promises are real. I have benefited greatly from prayer and trusting that God knows it all, and his plans and thoughts are not ours.
    Though I still grieve and cry many times in secret , I find peace in prayer.
    Thank you Anne.
    Thank you all.
    May God continue to fulfill his promises in your lives.

    1. The guilt. We all carry it no matter how our child died. And later we see signs we missed at the time because hindsight presents you the whole picture with the ending. I trust you will work through all that and your faith will eventually allow you to see your son grew up in a house of love and that you don’t have to focus on the 5% of parenting you did imperfectly and ignoring the 95% you did right. Thank you for telling your truth. I feel your heartbreak over the loss and the almost.

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