Gujanan- This is your page. We’ll use the comment feature below and that way we can see a timeline. This page is buried and backdated in thousands of posts. It will give us a place to follow your progress. We can move to email but so far my emails have not gotten to you.
Here’s where we’ll start.
Let’s start with a list of goals. Just send me your top 2-6 goals in life including the MBA, if you want a family etc.
And then you list five things for which you are grateful.
So do just the two first things first.
Later we will include how you handle when there are roadblocks to those goals. Or things that make them unobtainable.
We will also be setting expectations and redefining “failure” as “growing opportunities.” And integrating mindfulness strategies in the process. We will be looking for ones that you like to do.
We will lay out why we think this particular incident with your relationship plunged you into such darkness and talk about expectations for the future and how to build a network of support that doesn’t involve just one person. So this will be part of your safety plan which we will also be creating. (I will post here, too)
If you encounter an overwhelming urge to suicide, use one of the extreme measures such as lots of intense exercise or the cold water treatment. These don’t solve a long-term issue but they do re-circuit the brain. And they will keep things from getting worse and will alleviate the relentlessness of the suicidal thoughts.
Expect you will have relapses, things might get worse at times when in reality healing is happening, and open your heart to noticing and experiencing moments of joy.
So that’s where I think we will start and it might get rearranged based on your needs and personality.
Emergency Strategies and self care.
Hey- First step in this case is to do one of the emergency emotional crisis actions. So the cold water (video above), extreme exercise (which you have done and need to do again), meeting with a friend. Without medical intervention, we’ll have to rely on these until we can bring down the suicidal intensity.
Once you get any peace, the next step is to remove anything you might use to kill yourself. Or ask a friend to do this to help.
I know and I can tell it is so hard but we have to jump start your brain out of this pattern and that will take the extreme exercise or extreme cold to do that. Are you with me?
Now the biggest challenge in front of me is to survive. There is no hope for my survival. Every second is becoming death corner for me. Please tell me how can I get out of this? ☹️
First of all let me introduce myself, I am Gajanan Surywanshi from Pune, India.
I am alone person separated from family, struggling a lot to do something better in my life. After so many years of struggle one beautiful girl came into my life, she changed my life completely like she was everything for me. But after one year with lot of memories, she broked with me. And I am not able to handle myself anymore from last 6 months. I tried doing everything but nothing is working out. I am getting so weak everyday is like doomsday for me.
Please I need someone who can understand me, who can show path for my career.
Please 😫😫😫
I am here Gajanan. You are taking measures to save yourself and although you don’t know it, you are healing. After you post a few comments they will appear right away and no longer be in moderation. Thanks for the intro.
Now I am not getting what to do literally every second I am struggling to survive. Please help me I can’t live like this😟. It’s like death in installment. Complete worst situation of life. Please help me. Please😫🙏
I replied to the wrong comment. Sorry. Hey- First step in this case is to do one of the emergency emotional crisis actions. So the cold water (video above), extreme exercise (which you have done and need to do again), meeting with a friend. Without medical intervention, we’ll have to rely on these until we can bring down the suicidal intensity.
Once you get any peace, the next step is to remove anything you might use to kill yourself. Or ask a friend to do this to help.
I know and I can tell it is so hard but we have to jump start your brain out of this pattern and that will take the extreme exercise or extreme cold to do that. Are you with me?