- U.S. Peer warm line: When you call, you talk to someone like you who has also been hurting and wanted to end it at one point in their lives: 1-866-400-6428
I am sorry you are feeling such pain you want to kill yourself and write a final letter to your loved ones. It must be so awful to feel that bad.
If you are looking up how to write a suicide note, then you must have people who love you. Not everyone does.
I can only tell you how I felt when I lost my son, Charles, to suicide. I was devastated. I still am. I wish he had told me how he was feeling. I wish he had written me a message about his pain instead of a suicide note. Here are some things I want you to know.
1. Your pain is real
2. Having thoughts of suicide does not mean you are weak or a “coward.” Those are phrases from people who do not understand
3. You deserve treatment and support and should not be shamed or judged
4. I know you don’t want thoughts of suicide. No one wants to feel that way
5. It is great news you are still here and you have survived so far. Give yourself credit for having the courage to weather those thoughts. You are a warrior.
Guides on how to tell someone
- If you are a teen or young adult, you can use this guide on how to tell a parent or loved one you want to die. How to tell a parent I want to die
- For youth and adults How to tell someone I want to kill myself
Crisis Lines and Prevention Lifelines
USA & Canada Crisis Text 741-741
USA Suicide Prevention Lifeline for Veterans 1-800-273-8255, press 1
USA Veteran’s Text line send HELP to 838-255
USA Crisis Line for LGBTQ Youth 1-866-488-7386
USA Crisis Text for LGBTQ Youth 678-678
USA TransLifeline 1-833-456-4566
USA Suicide Prevention Lifeline and Chat for the Deaf or Hearing impaired. Or dial 711 then 1-800-273-8255
Reach out to the Crisis Text Line through Facebook
UK 116 123
UK Shout 85258 (Crisis Text Line for England, Scotland, Wales, N. Ireland)
AUSTRALIA Crisis Line 13 11 14
CANADA Crisis Line 1-833-456-4566
CANADA TransLifeline 877-330-6366
International suicide hotlines
Suicide Hotlines UK | UK crisis text 85258 | Ireland crisis text 50808
The best part about communication with this crisis line over Facebook is that your information is encrypted and anonymized.
Everyone who has done the dunking of the face in ice-cold water had told me it worked to alleviate the crisis (some said they had to do it at least twice.)
Because suicidal thoughts are treatable, here are resources that have helped others.
- My Suicide Safety Plan (source: Dr. Tracey Marks)
- Suicide Safety Plan Template
- Example of a safety plan that is filled in
- Example of a safety plan card that you can do yourself. While it’s not a replacement for therapy or a suicide assessment and safety plan, it has the elements of one. Carry it with you in a pocket and look at it 3X a day when you are struggling. You may not be able to identify “Reason’s for living” right now. But write it down “reasons for living” because it will come to you. These are what’s important to you. It can also be a memory.
Podcast for men who struggle with suicide
- From Suicidal to Inspired: Interview with Kevin Hines, Greg Van Borssum, and Matt Runnells – The Social Work Podcast. This is three men who have struggled with thoughts of suicide and how they manage these thoughts. It’s so good.
Articles, Videos, Self-Harm Help:
- Emergency emotional rescue strategies
- Why should I stay alive when I want to kill myself? by Anna Wieder
- This comment is from Graham in the UK who is a Dad and has children. He visited this page one day because he felt as you do now. He survived and this is how he survived. Maybe it will help you.
- Self-help: Self-harm safety box
Highly recommended book. Click the book picture to get your free Kindle version. $4.99 in paperback in the USA. If you are in another country, go to your amazon and paste “How to Not Kill Yourself: A Personal Guide for Embracing Life.”
- Free Book (kindle version) in USA: How to Not Kill Yourself: A Personal Guide for Embracing Life (author is anonymous)
- Book for suicidal persons recommended by a licensed counselor, Karla Helbert, LPC: How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person’s Guide to Suicide Prevention
- Book for suicidal persons who want to live: The Suicidal Workbook: CBT Skills to Reduce Emotional Pain, Increase Hope, and Prevent Suicide
- Book self-help for men: Guts, Grit & The Grind: A MENtal Mechanics MANual: Basic Mechanics