How to write a suicide note

suicide note

  • U.S. Peer warm line: When you call, you talk to someone like you who has also been hurting and wanted to end it at one point in their lives: 1-866-400-6428
  • U.S. Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255
  • U.S. Crisis text line 741-741
  • Suicide hotlines for other countries

I am sorry you are feeling such pain you want to kill yourself and write a final letter to your loved ones. It must be so awful to feel that bad.

If you are looking up how to write a suicide note, then you must have people who love you. Not everyone does.

I can only tell you how I felt when I lost my son, Charles, to suicide. I was devastated.   I still am. I  wish he had told me how he was feeling. I wish he had written me a message about his pain instead of a suicide note. Here are some things I want you to know.

1. Your pain is real

2. Having thoughts of suicide does not mean you are weak or a “coward.” Those are phrases from people who do not understand

3. You deserve treatment and support and should not be shamed or judged

4. I know you don’t want thoughts of suicide. No one wants to feel that way

5. It is great news you are still here and you have survived so far

6. Right now, I’m going to encourage you to ask someone for help. Or write a note to someone about how you are feeling.

There is also a link to an article I wrote about how to tell someone you are thinking of suicide.

 

So you are contemplating suicide…

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and currently working on getting a book published. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory.

11 thoughts on “How to write a suicide note”

        1. I usually tell young people to write it in a letter. You have to be very definite and here’s why. Because as parents, we just can’t believe things would be so bad, our child would want to kill themselves. It takes a while for it to sink in and for them to realize it’s real. That’s because we as parents think we are doing a reasonably good job and tend to take it personally at first even though it has to do with a chemical imbalance in the brain. This is an article I wrote that offers some instruction on how to tell a parent and write that letter. https://themighty.com/2016/12/how-to-tell-your-parents-you-want-to-die/

          If they STILL are not on board with helping you find help, reach out to a school counselor or teacher or an adult you like and trust.

          You can call and talk to someone just like you who has felt just as you do. Here is the national one. This is a peer network. 1-866-400-6428

          There is also a crisis text line: 741-741. And I’m just saying if that feeling hits you before that letter gets written. Or in that moment, come back here and comment. I might answer a few hours later but I will answer.

          Thank you for having the courage. And it is very brave.

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